07/07/2024
‼️One of the biggest neglect that exists is SELFNEGLECT ‼️
If you have experienced any kind of neglect or violence in your childhood or as a grown up, either verbal, physical, direct or semi direct (by witnessing abuse) you struggle with some of these or all of them:
* Your body responds physically on stressors and even small triggers, usually unexpected, like text of a song, smell, sound or a picture, can cause dysregulation of our nervous system (shaking, weakness, short breath, tensions, flashbacks, rage, dissociation, etc) 😨
* You experience hormonal dystregulation and dysfunction of thyroid gland which can cause (for women) and 😥🤯
* You feel pain in your body and doctors are not finding any reasons😩
* you put others needs before yours
* you are acting “Superman/woman” wanting to save everyone else but yourself 🦸♂️🦹♀️
* you have difficulties in expressing your needs and asking for and receiving help 🙅♀️
* Setting boundaries feels risky why you are not clear with where the line is🤐
* you often feel longing to be taken care of but forgetting to attend to your own needs ❤️🩹
* you hide your feelings from others which results in feeling lonely❤️🩹
* when you finally express your needs and they are not met you feel frustrated and your believes “others can not be trusted “ becomes affirmed and you become discouraged 😥
* you worry about being loved and try to fit in in what you think others want you to be🤯
* you are suspicious about others intentions🧐
* relationships are complicated and you struggle with letting people in but at the same time crave closeness 🙅♀️❤️🩹
* Difficulties in getting emotionally and physically intimate with other people, reinforce feelings of loneliness ❤️🩹
📝📝📝The list can go on and on when it comes to how our early experiences and traumatic experiences in any age form us and our relationships later in life. 📝📝📝
📣 I invite you to take a moment to to take these things in consideration and see where you recognize yourself
Reminder, next steps and some quick tips:
‼️You are not responsible for what other people did to you BUT you are responsible for your own healing
❤️🩹 healing of wounds of neglect starts with you staying truthful and attending to your own needs one step at the time starting with giving yourself space for your basic needs such as sleep, food, movment and relaxation
❤️ Feed yourself with loving thoughts about yourself
🫱 Reach out for help and suport but accept if other people can’t or won’t meet your needs. It’s ok ❤️
😢 When you feel sad, stressed, fearful, triggered treat yourself like a loving parent would treat its beloved child. Ask yourself “what would feel soothing for me now?” and go for it 💪
ℹ️ Learn how to soothe yourself and be compassionate 🫶🧸. Where and when you experience pleasure? Go for it! 💪
🧘🏻♀️ Take time daily, even if it’s just for 10 minutes or less to do some body- based therapies such as movement, breathwork, mindfulness, trauma informed yoga
🧐 When you find yourself triggered or in distrust ask yourself if your reaction is a trauma response to a situation that is not the cause of your reaction or is the situation itself traumatic (it can be both)
🫂 If it is a trauma response, remove yourself to a place where you can connect with the feelings/memories and regulate yourself. You can do it! 💪
⚡️During flasbacks stay present in your body, connect with your breath, remind yourself that you are safe now, name emotions, sound out them in whatewer way it feels right for you and let your body move according to impulses your body gives. It can be shaking, jumping or physically moving, contract and release your muscles 💪
☁️ If you start to “fade away” and loose connection with the present moment connect with the material things around you trough touch, sounds, vision and smell on a very strong smell
📝 Take time journal your thoughts, feelings, experiences
💎 Invest in professional help. You are responsible for your healing but you don’t need to do it on your own 🫂
👇🏼Join my group and start your healing journey ❤️🩹
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