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07/08/2026

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28/07/2026

Your triggers are trying to tell you something.

We move through life experiencing countless situations, conversations and interactions every day. Most pass by without much thought, but some evoke a strong emotional reaction. Maybe someone criticises you, doesn’t reply to your message, or says something that catches you off guard.

This is what we often call a trigger.

A trigger isn’t just the event itself, it’s the emotional response it creates within you. The intensity of that response is often linked to something much deeper than what’s happening in the present moment.

The next time you notice yourself feeling triggered, pause and ask yourself:

✨ What am I feeling right now?
✨ What story am I telling myself?
✨ What is this reaction trying to show me?

Instead of judging yourself for feeling this way, become curious.

Triggers often point to an unmet emotional need or a limiting belief that developed through past experiences.

For example, if someone doesn’t respond to your message and you immediately feel hurt or anxious, the trigger may not actually be about the delayed reply. It could be activating an old belief such as “I’m not important,” “I’m being rejected,” or “I’m not good enough.” The unmet need beneath that reaction may be to feel valued, secure or connected.

When you recognise what’s underneath the trigger, you create an opportunity to respond with awareness rather than reacting on autopilot.

Your triggers aren’t flaws to fix, they’re invitations to better understand yourself. The more compassion and curiosity you bring to them, the more freedom you have to respond differently.

Keep shining,

Dr. L ✨

07/07/2026

Reamintesc aici de o carte 📕 f valoroasa, de la Editura PsihoBooks, “Povara copilului favorit” de dr Pat Love.
Este valoroasa atât pentru adulții de azi, care au crescut cu un părinte intruziv, cat si pentru părinții de azi, care au copii si vor sa le ofere un mediu sănătos de creștere

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05/05/2026

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Astăzi este o zi specială pentru noi. 🎉
Suntem bucuroși să vă anunțăm că a apărut la Psihobooks cartea mult așteptată: „Povara Copilului Favorit — Ce faci când dragostea unui părinte îți domină viața”.

Această carte descrie Sindromul Copilului Favorit, cunoscut și sub denumirea de sindromul incestului emoțional. Este un stil de parenting surprinzător de comun, de cele mai multe ori normalizat cultural, dar profund invaziv pentru copil, unul în care granițele emoționale sunt încălcate în dinamica părinte-copil.

Acest concept descrie situația în care un părinte, din cauza faptului că este nefericit în relația de cuplu și/sau nu are o rețea de suport emoțional hrănitoare formată din adulți, își transformă copilul într-un partener emoțional substitutiv, făcându-l să se simtă special, ales sau indispensabil, dar încărcându-l cu nevoi, așteptări și confesiuni total nepotrivite pentru vârsta lui.

Această legătură excesiv de strânsă poate fi adesea confundată cu apropierea sau cu „dragostea specială”, însă ea implică o încărcare emoțională nepotrivită pentru un copil, aspect care poate avea consecințe importante asupra echilibrului psihoemoțional în viața de adult.

Nu e o coincidență că o lansăm în mai, luna conștientizării sănătății mintale. Pentru că sănătatea mintală începe adesea cu un singur pas: să înțelegi de unde vine ceea ce simți. Este o carte care aduce lumină într-o zonă sensibilă și adesea tabu a relațiilor de familie.

Începând de astăzi, o puteți comanda direct de pe site-ul nostru.💛

12/03/2026

A lot of people hear the word narcissism and imagine one extreme caricature. But psychologically, it’s more like a spectrum.

At the healthy end, narcissism simply reflects a stable sense of self worth. The ability to feel proud of your accomplishments. The belief that your voice matters. In that form, it actually supports confidence, resilience, and healthy relationships.

The problems start when someone’s sense of worth becomes dependent on admiration, control, or superiority. What began as normal self-regard slowly shifts into insecurity that has to be constantly defended.

That’s why narcissism isn’t really about loving yourself too much. It’s about what happens when a fragile identity needs constant reinforcement from the outside.

Understanding the spectrum helps us move the conversation past labels and toward something more useful: recognizing patterns, protecting our wellbeing, and understanding where behavior is coming from.

Hope this helps 🌈

09/11/2025

24/10/2025

How to talk to toxic people

I’ve never shared this before:

I once quit my job because I couldn’t handle the bullying from a manager.

The truth is:

You can’t change their behavior,
but you can change how you respond to it.

Here are 8 practical tips to protect your boundaries and reclaim your peace:

1/ When they try to guilt you:
"I understand how you feel, but I’m confident in my decision."

2/ When they dismiss your feelings:
"My feelings are valid, and I’d appreciate if you respected them."

3/ When they constantly criticize you:
"I welcome constructive feedback, but this doesn’t feel helpful."

4/ When they play the victim:
"I hear what you’re going through, but I can’t take responsibility for this."

5/ When they spread negativity:
"Let’s focus on what we can control and improve."

6/ When they gaslight you:
"I know my experience, and this is how I see it."

7/ When they try to control the situation:
"I understand your perspective, but I need to make my own decisions."

8/ When they interrupt you:
"I’d appreciate it if I could finish speaking before you share your thoughts."

It’s not your responsibility to fix toxic people.

Your priority is to protect your energy and maintain your boundaries.

By responding assertively,
you set the standard for how you deserve to be treated.

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