09/05/2024
When you’re enmeshed with your mom, you’ll feel as if you can’t be yourself. You’ll feel like you are the parent and your mother is the child. If you don’t take care of her feelings and needs, you’ll feel guilty, as if you’re doing something illegal by prioritizing yourself.
As a daughter, you’ll have to silence your voice, put anger aside, forget about your needs, and only focus on pleasing your mom. You’ll become a mini adult whose job is to be a caretaker of your mother, constantly feeling confused and wondering if her sharing everything with you is right or wrong?
She tells you it’s because she loves you so much and you’re the only one that understands her, but something a part of you feels uncomfortable. She is clingy, needy and a part of you feels angry at your mom for needing you all the time. Why doesn’t she hang out with her adult friends? Why can’t she share her feelings with your dad or a therapist instead of you?
If this is you, you may be enmeshed with your mom. Your feelings are normal but her behavior is not. To find out if your relationship with your mother is enmeshed, read my blog post “13 signs your relationship with your mom is toxic and enmeshed.” You’ll find the link in my bio, and the blog post by clicking on “blog.”
