Divorcing With Sanity

Divorcing With Sanity My name is Yan. I work with divorcing expat educators to help them keep their sanity, jobs and residency, so they can move forward without losing everything.

I am a certified life coach and Tarot reader from Singapore who helps educators keep it together while they are going through divorce, so they can continue to be confident and nurturing in the classroom.

08/08/2026

The women who came to me after they had tried years of self-help makes up about 80% of my clients. These are intelligent, mentally independent and resourceful educators who have no lack of ability in learning. So why didn't self-help work?

Once, there was a woman who lived in a house with too many rooms.Some were noisy, some with towering paperwork and some ...
07/08/2026

Once, there was a woman who lived in a house with too many rooms.

Some were noisy, some with towering paperwork and some filled with laughter. There was one quiet room she loved, but could hardly get in because there was always a queue outside. Another room was colder than she would like, with scratches on the wallpaper from old arguments and photographs gathering dust. Sometimes she missed the shouting, because at least it meant something was still alive. Yet she also hated the room where it was most chaotic, because she would struggle to keep the door shut when strong winds and thunderstorms kept pushing it open.

This is what goes on in a divorcing teacher's mind, every day.

What happens when that door bursts open mid-lesson?

The divorcing teacher lashes out at a student before she can stop herself. Hours, days and even months later, she continues to berate herself and questions her role as a teacher.

Clarity does not come from fixing, it comes from clearing (quite literally). You have probably heard that meditations are good for this. Why not try the 1-minute meditations I wrote, just for the divorcing teacher? They are guided, so you just have to plug in and follow the words. Lasting only about 1 minute each, they are very useful and easy to use during the school day.

It does not cost you anything, and you gain by being able to keep your cool better in front of everyone.

Get them here reset-toolkit.subscribepage.io or go to the LinkTree in my profile and look for ‘RESET TOOLKIT’.

“How can I teach my students about life with my own is in shambles?”Perhaps these thoughts have creeped into your mind b...
06/08/2026

“How can I teach my students about life with my own is in shambles?”

Perhaps these thoughts have creeped into your mind before, as you struggle to hold yourself up in class amidst your divorce.

Teachers don’t just teach the subject. We’re people who dedicate ourselves to educating the young ones about life. So when the belief system you had for the past decade breaks down with the divorce… self-doubt invades your sanity like a raging monster.

My answer to this is: A mistake can become something of value. It is what you do with what you have that makes it worthwhile.

Keeping your sanity is a matter of changing the way you think and act.

𝘐 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘴 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘴𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘢𝘺. 𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦 𝘣𝘺 𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦 𝘢 𝘋𝘔 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦.

The 3 of Pentacles in the Tarot deck shows 3 experts coming together to produce a brilliant outcome. Like the gears of a...
05/08/2026

The 3 of Pentacles in the Tarot deck shows 3 experts coming together to produce a brilliant outcome. Like the gears of a machine, one is just as important as the other, and their collaboration rather than independence is essential to the success of the project.

Does it make any of them weaker to be working in isolation? No. In fact, if any of them were to push on alone, not only will they not get an award for being a hero, they will likely end up crashing and burning.

Yet, in my experience working with women going through divorce, this is what most will do instinctively in a crisis. Not only do they not feel happier, they find themselves stuck in an exhausting lifestyle of trying to juggle everything alone.

The 3 essential ingredients for coming out of crisis bigger, better and more beautiful:

1. The Self
2. The Spiritual
3. The Support

I provide support that helps women like you move forward from divorce without losing everything. You can reach out to me via DM.

05/08/2026

No mother makes this decision lightly - you didn't wake up and decide to blow up your children's lives. You weighed it, you agonised over it, and you chose the lesser of two evils. But knowing that doesn't stop the self blame creeping in at 3am, or when your kids ask questions you're not ready for. That guilt doesn't disappear with time alone. It takes the right support and the right person to help you with it.

👉🏻 Follow for more content on how to overcome this guilt

Isn’t it ironic that the tight knit expat community you worked so hard to nurture when you first came to this country - ...
05/08/2026

Isn’t it ironic that the tight knit expat community you worked so hard to nurture when you first came to this country - would be the very people you’re most afraid of confiding your divorce woes in?

Most other people wouldn’t understand this dynamic - your friends are your colleagues at school, your kids sit next to each other at class and your husbands are golf buddies. Even fellow expat neighbours who usually bring their prized walnut muffins to you seem to be avoiding conversation after they find out you’re getting a divorce.

The jaw-dropping reason I learnt from insiders: these women are afraid you would steal their husbands, because the ‘pool’ is only that big and they somehow believe you’re eyeing their spouses.

That’s the cruel truth that hurts. You would have made a couple of true friends, but telling them would mean putting them and their children in deadly awkwardness. You already feel bad enough that your family is breaking up, and the last thing you want to do is to break up your friend-mily.

It’s a really, really tough and lonely journey.

“There was just so much pain, and I thought it was all about finding some kind of miracle happy pill to fill the emptine...
04/08/2026

“There was just so much pain, and I thought it was all about finding some kind of miracle happy pill to fill the emptiness in me. Instead, Yan started asking me what it is that I wanted in life. That question made me realise how much I haven’t been taking care of myself. I started to look at myself. Ask myself. Love myself. From there, I was able to plan, make decisions, move forward.”

Agnes (not her real name) was recovering from the pain of divorce, and she was desperate for someone to tell her what to do. The marriage had experienced a sudden death, so she was absolutely clueless about how to move on with her children.

The answers and wisdom were all within her. She just needed a space to sort out the mess so she could think clearly and feel purposeful about her new life.

I work with many women like Agnes to recover from the mess of divorce and rebuild their lives. If this sounds like you to, why not drop me a DM to have a chat?

The women I work with report a common phenomenon: they start to dream of falling off a cliff. The process of going throu...
04/08/2026

The women I work with report a common phenomenon: they start to dream of falling off a cliff. The process of going through a life crisis like divorce literally turns into a nightmare. What if there is something that can cushion this fall and stall time while you figure out your next steps? 30 minutes a week is all it takes, and we all can afford this time in the shower.

Full podcast episode: https://www.rfr.bz/f514299cc

03/08/2026

The myth is if you just consume more information, another book, another affirmation, another piece of advice - you'll finally move forward.

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