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We are a multifaceted counselling, podcasting and events platform devoted to enhancing mental health. I welcome you into this therapeutic space with me.

As a Trauma Recovery Therapist, I am passionate on helping individuals navigate through the complexities of adversity and trauma, with a unique focus on nervous system regulation. My approach to therapy is rooted in a deep understanding of the mind-body connection, underpinned by years of rigorous study and training in the field. My mission is to create a safe and nurturing space where individuals can explore their experiences, express their feelings, and begin the journey towards healing. Empathy, compassion, and understanding are at the heart of my practice, ensuring the importance of being heard, seen, and validated.

17/09/2026

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If your heart is hurting right now, please do not shame yourself for it, dear one.

You may know, in your head, that the relationship was not right for you. You may even know that going back would only hurt you more. But knowing that does not immediately switch off the part of you that misses them.

That is why heartbreak can feel so confusing.

A part of you can still miss the closeness, the good moments, or the person you hoped they would become — while another part of you knows you deserve more.

Both can be true.

For now, do not force yourself to “be over it.” Just focus on caring for the part of you that is hurting. Speak to yourself kindly. Let the feeling move through you. Keep choosing the life that is good for you, even on the days your heart wants to look back.

You will not feel this way forever. One day, the memory will no longer pull you away from yourself.

Save this for the days you need the reminder.

Sending you much love❤️

16/09/2026

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Just because you are older now does not mean the younger parts of you stopped carrying what they had to carry.

Childhood wounds often show up quietly in adulthood: in the way you speak to yourself when you make a mistake, how quickly you feel like a burden, how hard it is to receive help, or how easily your emotions can start to feel like “too much.”

When you grew up around unpredictability, your brain and body adapted around it. They learned to stay alert, to expect the next problem, and to protect you before you even have the chance to think. That is why you may find yourself overexplaining, shutting down, people-pleasing, or feeling overwhelmed by moments that seem small to everyone else.

It is not because you are weak or broken. It is because your system learned to survive without enough safety.

From my perspective as a Trauma Recovery Therapist, healing is not just understanding where your patterns came from. It is also learning to meet yourself differently: with compassion instead of criticism, support instead of isolation, and space for the emotions you once had to push away.

The brain is capable of change. Each repeated experience of safety, connection, rest, healthy boundaries, and being met without shame helps create a new inner expectation: I do not have to stay in survival mode forever.

You may have learned those old ways for a reason. But you do not have to keep living by them for the rest of your life.

Save this for the days you need that reminder. 🤍

Much love,
Nur ❤️

07/09/2026

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You can spend months replaying conversations, looking for the moment things changed, wondering what they really felt, what you could have done differently, or whether there was something you missed.

And sometimes… there simply isn’t an answer that will finally make everything hurt less.

Perhaps the questions you keep asking yourself eventually have to shift.

Instead of “Why couldn’t they love me the way I needed?”… Ask, “What was this relationship asking me to tolerate just to keep it?”

Instead of “Did I matter to them?”… Ask, “Did I feel like I mattered when I was with them?”

Instead of “What if they come back?”… Ask, “What would actually need to be different for me to feel safe giving this another chance?”

Because healing sometimes begins when you stop making your peace dependent on finally understanding another person — and start listening to what your own experience has already been trying to tell you.

And what does that actually look like?

Pay attention to who you became in that relationship. Were you constantly waiting? Overthinking? Making excuses for things that hurt you? Did you feel safe enough to speak about what you needed, or were you always worried that asking for too much would push them further away?

Notice what your body remembers too. The tightness in your chest when their energy changed. The anxiety when messages went unanswered. The relief when they finally became warm again. The exhaustion of never quite knowing where you stood.

You can miss someone and still move forward. You can have days where you want them back and still know going back wouldn’t be good for you. Healing doesn’t require perfect certainty.

Sometimes it simply begins with choosing not to keep putting your life on hold while your heart catches up.

You deserve more than just a maybe, or a “I’ll see where this goes.” There is a kind of love out there where you won’t have to convince someone to meet you there. They will willingly and sincerely want to. And that is the kind of love your heart deserves to wait for ❤️

Sending you much love,
Nur

06/09/2026

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There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that comes from an “almost love”. The kind that can be surprisingly difficult to explain because there may have been no official beginning, no clear ending, no anniversary dates or years of memories for people to point to and say, “Of course you’re heartbroken.”

And yet, the pain can feel just as deep — sometimes even deeper — because so much of the story was left unfinished. There were feelings that had nowhere to go, conversations that never happened, questions you may never get answers to, and a possibility that stayed a possibility.

I think that’s what makes an almost love so painful. You’re trying to grieve something that never had the chance to fully exist, while a part of you is still wondering what might have happened if things had been different.

And when there was never really a relationship to begin with, it can become a very lonely kind of grief. Other people may not understand why it has affected you this much. And sometimes, when the people around us don’t understand our pain, we start questioning it ourselves. Why am I still hurting? Why is this so hard to let go of?

But I hope you never mistake the depth of your grief for weakness, or wish you had cared less just so leaving would hurt less. There is nothing shameful about having a heart that loved deeply.

And perhaps healing isn’t about hardening your heart or wishing you had loved any less. Maybe, with time, it’s simply learning that a heart capable of loving this deeply deserves somewhere safe for that love to land.

Some love stories may only ever be an almost.
But that doesn’t mean yours always will be.

Sending you much love,
Nur

05/09/2026

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I’ve been thinking a lot about childhood emotional neglect lately, and how many people are probably carrying this wound without even knowing it.

Because when we think about a painful childhood, we often tend to just think about what happened. But sometimes, the pain is also in what never happened.

Maybe you were fed. You went to school. You had a roof over your head. Your parents may have even loved you in the only ways they knew how.

But nobody really asked how you were doing.
Nobody knew what to do with your big feelings.
Nobody noticed when you were struggling.
Or perhaps love and connection always felt a little unpredictable.

And when that is all you’ve ever known, you don’t necessarily grow up thinking, “I was emotionally neglected.”

You just adapt.

You learn to handle things yourself. To stop asking. To shrink certain parts of yourself. And years later, you may wonder why trusting someone feels so difficult, why vulnerability feels terrifying, or why there is this emptiness inside that you can’t quite put into words.

I think that’s what makes childhood emotional neglect so painful and so easy to miss.

Sometimes the wound isn’t only what someone did to you. It’s everything you needed that NEVER happened for you.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t hurt.

Sometimes, it begins with allowing yourself to grieve what you should have received but didn’t — without minimising it, defending it, or telling yourself others had it worse.

And slowly, you begin learning that the love, safety and connection you once had to chase are things you are allowed to choose differently now ❤️

03/09/2026

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I think one of the hardest things about heartbreak is how little control we have over what stays with us.

You can understand why something had to end and still miss it.

You can know that moving forward is the right thing and still have days where your heart wishes things had turned out differently.

Both can be true.

There is no shame in taking time to come to terms with something that touched your life deeply.

Be gentle with the parts of you that are still catching up to what your mind may already understand.

Some endings take time to make peace with.

And perhaps healing is not about forgetting what happened, but slowly reaching a place where you can remember it without it hurting the way it once did.

If your heart is hurting right now, I hope this post finds you. ❤️

Sending you so much love,
Nur ❤️

30/08/2026

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Lately, I’ve been reflecting on how much of life is made up of things we never planned for.

The unexpected chapters. The relationships that change us. The endings we didn’t want. The boundaries we eventually learn to set. The days we feel strong, and the days when simply getting through feels like enough.

And somewhere along the way, I think we all need reminders that bring us back to ourselves.

That we don’t always have to have everything figured out. That choosing ourselves doesn’t make us selfish. That pain can still be real even when nobody sees it. And that sometimes, we matter to people in ways we may never fully know.

So I put together a few gentle reminders for whatever season of life you may be walking through right now.

I hope at least one of them finds you exactly where you are, and gives you something you needed to hear today 🤍

Sending you so much love ❤️

28/08/2026

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I’ve been thinking about how much of what people carry is completely invisible to us.

We cross paths with people every day. We work with them. Sit beside them. Love them. Laugh with them. And sometimes, we have absolutely no idea what they are carrying underneath it all.

A heartbreak they haven’t spoken about.
A loss they’re still learning to live with.
A childhood they’re still making sense of.
A relationship that is quietly breaking them.

I think this is why gentleness matters.

Because we often judge people by the small part of their lives we can see, without knowing what it took for them to simply make it through the day.

And if you’re the one carrying something heavy that nobody seems to see, I want you to know this: Your pain still matters, even when it isn’t witnessed.

You deserve spaces where you don’t have to carry it alone. Where what hurts can be held, understood and supported without judgment.

And whatever has happened to you before this moment, it does not have to become the story of every chapter that comes next.

Your past is part of your story.
It doesn’t have to become the rest of it🤍

Much love,
Nur ❤️

27/08/2026

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There was something incredibly moving about being in a room filled with women willing to show up as they were — sharing their stories, their fears, their hopes, and parts of themselves that perhaps don’t always get to have a voice.

It reminded me of something I think about often in my work: The spaces we surround ourselves with matter. The people we allow close to us matter.

Because healing doesn’t only happen through understanding what hurt us. Sometimes, healing also happens through experiencing something different.

Being listened to without being dismissed.
Being vulnerable without being judged.
Being celebrated without having to perform.
Being able to take up space without wondering whether we are too much.

These experiences may seem small, but over time, they can begin to challenge some of the things we once learned about relationships, trust and belonging.

And perhaps that is part of healing too — slowly discovering that not every relationship has to feel like the ones that hurt us.

To my beautiful friend sarah bagharib • emcee, speaker & coach , what you created with Crazycat was so much more than an event. You created spaces where women could come together, speak, connect, laugh, cry and feel a little less alone. I know how much of your heart you’ve poured into this community over the years, and it was incredibly special to witness the impact of that in the room that evening.

And to the speakers — thank you for your honesty, your stories, and for lending your voice to a room where I know your words rippled far beyond that evening. shazza!!!!!⚡️ alia • عليا • 👁️ preetipls | Singapore’s TOP everything

What a meaningful way to close this chapter. I’m so grateful I got to be in the room for this one ❤️

Much love to you ❤️

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