The Good Life Counselling

The Good Life Counselling We are a multifaceted counselling, podcasting and events platform devoted to enhancing mental health. I welcome you into this therapeutic space with me.

As a Trauma Recovery Therapist, I am passionate on helping individuals navigate through the complexities of adversity and trauma, with a unique focus on nervous system regulation. My approach to therapy is rooted in a deep understanding of the mind-body connection, underpinned by years of rigorous study and training in the field. My mission is to create a safe and nurturing space where individuals

can explore their experiences, express their feelings, and begin the journey towards healing. Empathy, compassion, and understanding are at the heart of my practice, ensuring the importance of being heard, seen, and validated.

Some of the deepest pain I witness in my work isn’t always caused by strangers.It’s carried by those who were hurt by th...
03/08/2026

Some of the deepest pain I witness in my work isn’t always caused by strangers.

It’s carried by those who were hurt by the very people they once believed would protect, comfort or love them. And perhaps that’s what makes these wounds so difficult to move through. Because it’s not only the betrayal/rejection/discard you’re grieving.

You’re grieving the relationship you thought you had. The version of them you believed existed. The love you hoped would one day feel different. The safety your heart had quietly counted on.

When that kind of pain isn’t acknowledged, it doesn’t simply disappear because time has passed.

Instead, it often finds new ways to show up.

You become more cautious with your heart.
You second-guess people’s intentions.
You struggle to believe someone could truly stay. Or you find yourself carrying an invisible weight that no one else seems to notice.

If this is where you find yourself today, I hope you know this:

There is nothing weak about how hard it has been. You adapted in the only ways your heart knew how.

And while those ways may have helped you survive then, they don’t have to define the rest of your life. Healing isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen.

It’s about slowly teaching your heart that what happened to you does not have to become the story you continue living.

If these words spoke to a part of you today, leave a ❤️ in the comments. I’d love to know that this reached someone who needed it.

Save this post for the days you need to remember that your pain makes sense.. and that healing is still possible.

Podcast co-host: Mizi Wahid
The Good Life Podcast 😊

Much love,
Nur

Drop ❤️ if this post speaks to you.——-Loneliness has a way of creating urgency.When you’ve been waiting for love for a l...
02/08/2026

Drop ❤️ if this post speaks to you.

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Loneliness has a way of creating urgency.

When you’ve been waiting for love for a long time, watching the people around you find their person, get married and build families can quietly awaken a fear that perhaps you’re being left behind.

And when that fear gets loud enough, we can start making decisions from scarcity rather than self-respect. We overlook incompatibilities. Rationalise behaviours that hurt us. Stay longer than we know we should. Lower standards we once thought were important.

Not necessarily because we don’t know what we deserve, but because sometimes the possibility of having someone feels less painful than facing the uncertainty of having no one.

But there is an important difference between wanting love and needing a relationship to prove that you are worthy of it.

You are allowed to want partnership deeply. You are allowed to feel lonely. You are allowed to grieve the life you thought you would have by now.

The work isn’t to stop longing for love. It’s learning to hold that longing without allowing fear to choose your relationships for you.

Because sometimes self-respect looks like being able to say:

“I want love deeply…. But I don’t want it at the expense of myself.”

Podcast co-host: Ron Yap Ron Yap | M. Counselling 🏡
The Untangled Minds Podcast Untangled Minds

Sending you much love,
Nur ❤️

Leave a ❤️ if these words found you at the right time. And share this with someone who might need this reminder today.——...
01/08/2026

Leave a ❤️ if these words found you at the right time. And share this with someone who might need this reminder today.

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There are seasons in life where we can become so consumed by what has happened to us that we slowly lose sight of who we are beyond it.

Heartbreak. Rejection. Grief. Disappointment. Years of putting everyone else first.

Sometimes the pain becomes so loud that it starts speaking for us… telling us who we are, what we’re worth, and what the rest of our life is going to look like.

But there is a you that exists beyond what happened.

A you with dreams that may have been placed aside. A you who still longs to laugh freely, love deeply, feel safe, explore, create, connect and experience life again.

And perhaps you don’t need to have everything figured out right now.

Perhaps today, you just need to remember that your story is still being written.

And there is still so much of you… and so much life waiting to be rediscovered ❤️

Sending you much love,
Nur ❤️

There is a survival response that often goes unnoticed. It’s called fawning.Unlike fight, flight or freeze, fawning is w...
31/07/2026

There is a survival response that often goes unnoticed. It’s called fawning.

Unlike fight, flight or freeze, fawning is when we learn to protect ourselves by keeping other people happy, avoiding conflict, and putting everyone else’s needs before our own.

For many people, this wasn’t a conscious choice. It was an adaptation.

When expressing your needs led to criticism, conflict, emotional distance, or feeling responsible for someone else’s emotions, your brain learnt that keeping the peace was the safest way to stay connected.

The difficult part is that these patterns don’t always stay in childhood. They can quietly follow us into adulthood, showing up as people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, over-functioning in relationships, and feeling guilty whenever we choose ourselves.

The good news is this: our brains are capable of change ❤️

Through repeated experiences of safely setting boundaries, asking for help, resting without guilt, and discovering that relationships can still remain secure, our brains begin updating old predictions about what it takes to be safe and loved.

Healing isn’t about becoming someone completely different.

It’s about helping the parts of you that have spent years surviving realise they no longer have to carry everything alone.

🤍 I’m curious…
When you look back on your childhood, what role did you find yourself taking on the most? Comment down below⬇️

Podcast: CLARITY ❤️

There is a version of grief that no one prepares you for…The kind that begins long before the actual goodbye, in all the...
30/07/2026

There is a version of grief that no one prepares you for…

The kind that begins long before the actual goodbye, in all the quiet moments when a part of you already knew.

It isn’t the day you finally walk away.

It’s the weeks, months, or even years before…

when you’re still sitting across the table from them, yet quietly realising you no longer recognise the relationship you once shared.

If this weighs heavily on your heart today, dear one, it makes so much sense why.

When two hearts slowly drift away from the future they once imagined together, there is a grief that words often struggle to hold.

You are grieving not only the person, but the life you thought the two of you would build.

That kind of loss deserves to be mourned.

So if your heart feels heavy today, may you be gentle with it.

Healing doesn’t ask you to pretend it didn’t matter.

It asks you to slowly make peace with what is.

Sending you much love ❤️

If this works speaks to you, comment “DISCOVERY” for a free call to explore how I can support you in your journey ahead.

29/07/2026

Drop ❤️ if this speaks to you.

Sending you much love ❤️

Drop a ❤️ if this post speaks to you. What’s one reminder you wish someone had told you years ago? Comment down below. I...
29/07/2026

Drop a ❤️ if this post speaks to you.

What’s one reminder you wish someone had told you years ago? Comment down below. I would love to hear it from you ❤️

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Self-abandonment rarely begins in adulthood.

It often begins much earlier.

When love felt conditional.
When keeping the peace was safer than speaking up.
When saying “No” wasn’t welcomed.
When your needs were minimised, dismissed, or consistently came second.

Over time, you learn something powerful:

“If I want to stay connected, I need to disconnect from myself.”

That survival strategy may have protected you once. But years later, it can quietly become the reason you overthink every decision, struggle to set boundaries, settle for relationships that leave you feeling unseen, or constantly seek validation from people who were never able to give it.

The hardest part is that self-abandonment often doesn’t feel like self-abandonment.

It feels like being kind.
Being understanding.
Giving people another chance.
Avoiding conflict.
Keeping everyone happy.

Until one day, you realise you’ve become a stranger to yourself.

Healing isn’t about becoming selfish.

It’s about slowly rebuilding trust with yourself.

Choosing to listen when your body says “this doesn’t feel right.”
Honouring your values even when it’s uncomfortable.
Allowing your needs to matter too.

And understanding that every time you choose yourself with compassion rather than guilt, you’re teaching your nervous system something new:

“I don’t have to leave myself to be loved.”

Sending you much love,
Nur ❤️

When you miss someone you had to let go of, what do you remind yourself? Comment down below. I would love to hear from y...
28/07/2026

When you miss someone you had to let go of, what do you remind yourself? Comment down below. I would love to hear from you ❤️

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Sometimes, letting go is not difficult because you have forgotten how much the relationship hurt you.

It is difficult because a part of you still remembers the comfort, the closeness and the moments that made you feel loved.

So when you miss them, please do not be hard on yourself, dear one.

Missing them does not mean you are going backwards. It does not mean you made the wrong choice. It simply means your heart is still learning how to live without someone who once mattered deeply to you.

There may be days when the longing feels louder than the reasons you left.

On those days, try to remember the whole relationship, not only the parts your heart is aching for.

You do not have to return to what hurt you just because you are hurting without it.

You are allowed to grieve, to miss them and to wish things had been different.

And you are still allowed to keep choosing yourself ❤️

Much love to you,
Nur

I’d love to hear from you:What has helped you feel less alone during the hardest seasons of your life? Comment below ⬇️—...
26/07/2026

I’d love to hear from you:
What has helped you feel less alone during the hardest seasons of your life? Comment below ⬇️

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One of the biggest misconceptions about emotional pain is that if someone is still functioning, they must be doing okay.

But the ability to keep going has never been a reliable measure of how much someone is hurting.

I’ve sat with many people who continue to go to work, care for their families, show up for everyone around them, and still carry an unbearable amount of loneliness inside. From the outside, they appear “strong.” Yet behind closed doors, they’re exhausted from holding everything together.

Sometimes surviving looks so convincing that even the person themselves forgets just how much they’re carrying.

If this resonates with you, I hope you’ll remember this:

You don’t have to wait until you’re falling apart before your pain deserves care.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is allow someone to sit beside you, help you make sense of your story, and remind you that you don’t have to carry it all alone. You are worthy to be seen and heard ❤️

🤍 If this post made you feel seen, share it with someone who might need this reminder today.

Sending you much love❤️

❤️ I’d love to hear from you:What’s one lesson heartbreak has taught you about love, or about yourself? Comment down bel...
25/07/2026

❤️ I’d love to hear from you:
What’s one lesson heartbreak has taught you about love, or about yourself? Comment down below ⬇️

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One of the hardest parts of heartbreak isn’t always losing the person. It’s letting go of the version of your future that existed because of them.

The conversations you imagined.
The life you pictured.
The family you hoped to build.
The feeling that maybe this would finally be the relationship where you felt safe, chosen, and deeply loved.

When those dreams disappear, it can feel as though a part of you disappears with them.

That’s why moving on isn’t a matter of simply “getting over it.”

It’s a process of grieving — not just what happened, but what never got the chance to happen.

If that’s where you find yourself today, I hope you’ll offer yourself the same compassion you would offer someone you love.

Grief is not proof that you’re weak.

It’s proof that your heart loved deeply.

And that deserves every bit, to be attended to with so much compassion and care ❤️

Sending you much love,
Nur. A

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