The Singapore Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy

22/05/2026

Grateful for the meaningful learning journey we shared during the Online EFIT Consultation from 18–21 May 2026. ❤️

We are deeply encouraged by the feedback from participants — many shared that the consultations helped deepen their confidence, provided insightful reminders, and created focused yet non-overwhelming learning through real case discussions across multicultural backgrounds.

A heartfelt thank you to all the presenters for your courage and generosity in sharing your clinical work. Your openness made the learning rich, experiential, and deeply meaningful for everyone.

Special appreciation to Dr. Ting Liu for the insightful consultation throughout the four half-day sessions.

We are especially touched that many participants expressed a desire for more consultation opportunities. Thank you for your trust, engagement, and passion for learning EFT together.

06/02/2026

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) is one of the most extensively researched and empirically supported approaches to couple therapy today. Grounded in attachment science, EFCT integrates systemic, experiential, and person-centered approaches to help couples understand and transform the emotional and relational patterns that maintain distress. Decades of outcome research, including randomized controlled trials and meta-analyses, demonstrate that EFCT leads to significant and lasting improvements in relationship satisfaction, emotional bonding, and attachment security. Research consistently shows that couples not only move out of distress, but are also able to sustain positive change over time, making EFCT a leading evidence-based model in couple therapy.

The EFCT Externship is a 4-day foundational training designed for mental health professionals who wish to work more effectively with couples by addressing the emotional and attachment processes beneath conflict and disconnection. Participants will learn a clear and structured framework to assess couple distress, identify negative interaction cycles, and facilitate meaningful emotional change.

Whether you are a seasoned couple therapist or have not yet started seeing couples, this course will support you in learning and applying Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). If you are new to Emotionally Focused Therapy and unsure where to begin, the EFCT Externship is the ideal starting point. It is the first required step toward ICEEFT certification and provides a strong foundation for further EFT training and clinical practice.

28/12/2025

What to do when you're in love but your partner's parents aren't in love with you.

I’m grateful to contribute to a Channel NewsAsia TODAY article on couples struggling when parents disapprove of their relationship.

In my therapy room, I see this often — partners caught between loyalty to family and longing for connection with each other. These conflicts are rarely about “right or wrong,” but about deep attachment fears, unmet needs, and old bonds pulling in different directions.

Healing begins when we slow down and understand what’s really happening underneath the fights. In my work with couples, I often witness how moments of genuine acknowledgment — after the track of negative cycle, unpacking and deepening — such as “I was not there to protect you when you needed me the most,” can be profoundly healing and reconnecting.

While it may sound simple, this kind of emotional repair becomes possible only when an attachment lens guides therapy. Through attunement to each partner’s emotional world, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) helps couples access deeper experiences of safety, responsibility, and reconnection. This is the power of EFCT — moving couples beyond blame and conflict, and back toward secure emotional connection.

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Relationship experts said that when parents disapprove of a partner, it can sometimes say more about their own long-standing beliefs and expectations than about the partner.

09/11/2025

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) guides couples through three key stages of change:

1️⃣ Calming the Storm – De-escalating conflict and identifying negative patterns.
2️⃣ Rebuilding the Bond – Fostering emotional engagement and trust.
3️⃣ Growing Stronger Together – Consolidating new, secure ways of connecting.

🌱 A roadmap for transforming disconnection into emotional safety and lasting closeness.

01/11/2025

✨ Last Day of EFCT Externship 29 Oct-1 Nov 25✨

Today marks the final day of our EFCT Externship! What an incredible journey it has been! Over the past 4 days, our participants, facilitators, and our amazing trainer, Dr. Ting Liu, have been working tirelessly and wholeheartedly.

It has been truly inspiring to witness everyone’s enthusiasm, the thoughtful questions, deep reflections, and the courage to step into role plays to learn and grow. The energy in the room has been filled with curiosity, vulnerability, and connection.

Thank you to each and every one of you for showing up with such openness and dedication. We are excited to see how you will bring EFT into your work and continue transforming relationships 💙

28/10/2025

🌿 Wrapping Up Our 4-Day EFIT Training! 🌿

From 24 to 28 October, we had the privilege of learning from Dr. Liu, who did an amazing job explaining the heart of Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) — bringing the concepts of EFT to individual work with such depth and clarity. 💚

Four days felt far too short — there was so much to learn, practice, and reflect on together! Thank you to everyone who joined us and made this a truly enriching experience. 🙏✨

23/10/2025

✨ Singapore EFT Community Peer Learning Group ✨

We had a wonderful final Peer Learning Group of the year with Michelle Png, Senior Counsellor at Care Corner Counselling Centre, who shared on “Sex Therapy Using EFT – Sexual Assessment & Discrepancies in Desire.”

It was an engaging and thought-provoking discussion that deepened our understanding of how EFT can be applied to explore sexual dynamics and emotional connection in couples.

A big thank you to Michelle and all participants for your openness and insights. 💛

We look forward to continuing our shared learning journey next year!

14/09/2025

Is silence hurting your relationship?
Quiet disconnection—unspoken feelings, emotional withdrawal, and suppressed pain—can quietly erode intimacy and trust. In my latest blog, “Quiet Disconnection”, discover how these patterns affect couples and why addressing them is key to healing and rebuilding connection.

https://just2hearts.com/blog/f/quiet-disconnection-in-couples-when-silence-speaks-louder

By Winny Lu Aldridge, ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFCT) Trainer-in-Training, Supervisor, and Therapist

17/08/2025

🌟 EFCT Externship | Singapore, October 2025 🌟

We’re delighted to announce the upcoming Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) Externship happening in Singapore, October 2025!

📌 Early Bird price ends 31st August 2025 – secure your spot now and enjoy the discounted rate.

💡 Why EFCT?

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) is one of the most effective and widely recognized approaches for couples therapy worldwide. Backed by over 30 years of empirical research, EFCT has consistently demonstrated success in helping couples build stronger, healthier, and more secure relationships.

Grounded in attachment theory, EFCT helps partners understand and transform the emotional bonds that shape their interactions. It is:
- Attachment-based: Rooted in the science of adult love and bonding.
- Systemic: Focused on patterns of interaction, not just individual behavior.
- Experiential: Guiding couples through powerful emotional experiences that create lasting change.

🌱 What makes EFCT so powerful?

Proven effectiveness in reducing relationship distress. Helps couples move from cycles of conflict and disconnection to patterns of safety, closeness, and resilience.

✨ Join us for this immersive training and gain the foundation to practice EFCT with confidence and skill.

17/08/2025

🌟 Upcoming Training: EFIT Essentials (In-Person, Singapore | October 2025)

📌 Early Bird price ends 31 August 2025 – don’t miss the chance to secure your spot at a special rate.

💡 What is EFIT?

Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) is an attachment science-based approach to individual therapy. Just like its sister models — EFCT for couples and EFFT for families — EFIT helps clients reshape and make sense of their inner world, while also transforming how they engage with others and with their own younger selves.

In EFIT, emotion takes center stage. Why? Because emotion is the key to unlocking change — it organizes our inner experience, drives motivation, and shapes the patterns of disconnection in relationships with self and others.

🌱 Why EFIT is so effective for individuals

Deep healing: EFIT guides clients to access, explore, and reprocess their most vulnerable emotions.

Integration: Clients gain a clearer sense of self, making sense of past wounds while building resilience for the present.

Transforming patterns: By working through emotional blocks, clients discover new ways of relating to themselves and others.

Outcome: Clients experience greater self-compassion, emotional balance, and stronger connections in their relationships.

✨ If you’re a therapist looking to deepen your practice, this training will equip you with powerful tools to support individual clients through meaningful, lasting change.

08/06/2025

Free 1-Hour EFIT Talk by Dr. Ting Liu
🗓 28 June 2025 (Saturday)
🕛 12:00 AM – 1:00 AM (Singapore Time)
Don't miss this opportunity to learn how to work with individual clients using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

🧠 Dr. Ting Liu will be sharing insights in this free online session.
📌 Register via the link below to reserve your spot!

Therapy is relational—even when we’re working 1:1.
In EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy), we know that real change happens not just through insight, but through felt emotional experiences—in the moment, with another human being.
Join us for a free training with Dr. Ting Liu as she shares how EFIT helps individuals access and transform deep emotional pain—shame, fear, sadness, ambivalence—within the safety of the therapeutic relationship.

💻 Free + on Zoom

You’ll walk away with tools to help clients rewrite their stories in real time—and to be the secure base they need to do that.
👉 Register here:

A central premise of Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) is that a key to profound personal change lies in corrective emotional experiences, both