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Rational Living Inc - Saima Salman Rational Living Inc is a leading Singapore-based company providing psychological services to individ Saima Salman, Founder, and Director of Rational Living Inc.

Rational Living Inc is a leading Singapore-based company providing psychological services to individuals, groups, and companies and supervisory services to aspiring and practicing psychologists. Pte Ltd is a practicing Clinical Psychologist and a Certified Supervisor with over 23 years of diverse clinical experiences with the American, European, and Asian populations. She has extensive training in REBT/CBT and has treated hundreds of children, adults (individuals and couples) with diverse backgrounds and a variety of clinical issues.

Happiest Heavenly Birthday, Dr Beck! I have been meaning to write a birthday wish for him all day… thinking about what I...
18/07/2026

Happiest Heavenly Birthday, Dr Beck!

I have been meaning to write a birthday wish for him all day… thinking about what I remember most. Surprisingly, it isn’t the lectures, the theories, or even the fact that he changed the face of psychotherapy forever.

It was his humility. His humanity.
As a young therapist from Pakistan, I could never have imagined that one day I would have the privilege of sitting in the same room as the man whose work I had spent years studying. Training with Dr. Beck was a dream I never imagined would come true. Yet despite his towering reputation, there wasn’t an ounce of arrogance about him. He was so gentle, thoughtful… and incredibly kind.

One conversation has stayed with me all these years.

Knowing that I had trained extensively with my beloved mentor, Dr. Albert Ellis, he spoke about Al with such warmth, respect, and genuine affection. The world often likes to tell stories of rivalry between great pioneers, but that wasn’t what I witnessed. What I witnessed was something far more beautiful. I saw a side of him that genuinely cared for Al—a warmth and admiration that completely caught me by surprise.

That moment taught me something no textbook ever could.

It showed me what true greatness really looks like.

I often think about how incredibly fortunate I have been to learn from both Dr. Albert Ellis and Dr. Aaron Beck. Two men whose ideas shaped modern psychotherapy, but whose character left an even deeper imprint on me. Their personalities were different. Their therapeutic approaches were almost polar opposites. Yet both dedicated their lives to easing human suffering. Both remained lifelong students. And both reminded me that compassion belongs at the heart of everything we do.

Dr. Beck, thank you for your wisdom. Thank you for your humility. Thank you for the quiet dignity with which you carried your extraordinary legacy.

Happy Heavenly Birthday.

You are deeply missed and lovingly remembered.

What a privilege it was to learn from you.

♥️

You are a Rockstar for the world.. but for me, you will always be a Rock! 4 decades regardless of distance, communicatio...
20/04/2026

You are a Rockstar for the world.. but for me, you will always be a Rock! 4 decades regardless of distance, communication or time! From our childhood adventures (You trying to save the boys I used to beat up or running all over the house to escape sir Wahdat’s chitters).. to loosig our precious parents and now to becoming parents and seeing our own kids grow up… we have been there for each other! It’s a blessing to grow old with old friends … you are one of my oldest and most consistent one! Love you and hope to see you more often.. life feels a lot shorter now ♥️

Happiest birthday, Boing ♥️

Some stories don’t begin with a brand—they begin in childhood. (See the last photo :) I grew up wearing clothes designed...
17/04/2026

Some stories don’t begin with a brand—they begin in childhood. (See the last photo :)

I grew up wearing clothes designed by Nida. Back then, it was just her instinct, her eye, her quiet magic with pretty much anything she touched (I used to call her “the girl with the golden hands”) None of us called it a “brand”… but even then, you could feel something very special taking shape.

Years later, seeing her build .by.nedaal in Pakistan feels like watching that same incredible spark turn into something undeniable!!!!

Wearing this piece in Turkey was surreal. People kept stopping me, asking about it, calling it something out of a “royal Ottoman workshop.” And I kept thinking—if only they knew. If only they could see what I’ve seen all along…. Because this isn’t just beautiful work. It’s patience. It’s heritage. It’s every single stitch done by hand, with a kind of care you don’t come across often anymore ♥️

And the truth is, these photos don’t do it justice!

But I can.

I’ve been wearing her stories long before the world noticed….. And I couldn’t be prouder of you, Nida…. My super talented, gifted, beautiful childhood friend❤️

08/03/2026

International ChairWork Psychotherapy Conference - fireside chat on “Creating a Bridge for ChairWork for Intergenerational and Multicultural Healing.”

Silence equals submission.
Submission, in the land of the “pure,” equals patience.
And patience—
oh, they beautifully brainwashed us that patience was HOLY!
There was nothing ‘holy’ about conditioning women to loose their ‘voice’ so they can never speak about what was done to them!

With time, patience became tolerance.
Not the kind that’s rooted in wisdom,
but the kind that asks you to tolerate everything, regardless of how badly you are treated or what’s done to you or your self respect!

The abuse.
The cruelty.
The injustice.
The persistent unkindness.
The slow erosion of yourself... and your self respect.

And they called that a “good woman”.

A “good woman” doesn’t speak up about abuse or injustice!
She endures it silently.
She makes excuses.
She smiles through pain.
She calls her silence strength
and her exhaustion, love.
And the society? Well, it rushes to give her a medal by reminding her: “Wow! You are so wise! You know how to keep the family and its honor together!”

And then one day, when she finally dares to speak—
no matter how softly, kindly or assertively —
the labels arrive.

Defiant.
Disrespectful.
Difficult.
Crazy.
Aggressive.
Hyper sensitive
Out of control
Westernised
Exaggerator
Rebellious
Drama Queen
Overly reactive
Bad woman

But LET me tell you the truth:

Silence was the smartest manipulation tactic of all.
A way to keep you voiceless.
To keep you quiet in the name of honor,
in the name of family,
in the name of love.

YOU are not the names they call you! This is how they have successfully conditioned you to shut up by constantly gaslighting you into believing IT IS NOT THE ABUSE OR MISTREATMENT THAT IS THE PROBLEM - IT IS YOU TALKING ABOUT IT!

JUST DON’T SHUT UP! Give up the damn fear! Unlearn every lie that said silence equals goodness.
It never did.
Let’s speak up … together and raise all HELL!

Continues in comments ——>

24/02/2026

Happiest Birthday, my sweetheart!

Someone shared this with me and said, “This is so you! It reminded me of you.” When I listened to it, it made me cry for reasons I can’t fully explain — and in that deeply reflective moment, I thought of you!

I’m sharing it with you as a reminder of how incredibly proud I am of you and your courageous journey inward.

Shine on, Pooja! The world needs you — and your voice — to inspire those who are still caged, yet somehow believe they are free. ♥️

31/10/2025

She’s not crazy!

She’s reacting to years of abuse, mistreatment, gaslighting, and silence.

She’s reacting to a home where apologies never come, accountability doesn’t exact, where her pain and dignity is ignored, and her anger is used against her.

When a woman finally screams — that’s not madness. That’s the sound of decades of disrespect, invalidation, and emotional neglect catching fire.
And yet… everyone rushes to label her “crazy,” instead of asking what was done to her!

Her reaction is NOT the problem!

The problem is what she’s reacting to —
the mistreatment, the manipulation, the invalidation, the denial, the pretending.

This was shared by a client and it broke my heart into millions of tiny pieces as she watched it with me in the session with tears of exhaustion running down her face…. I sat for a long time in silence after she left… thinking not everyone has access to knowledge or therapy. And even knowledge and therapy can fail at times in the face of persistent, decades-long maltreatment. That’s not weakness - that’s “being human”.

So if you’re falling apart, if you’re exhausted, if you’re holding pain that no one sees or understands —
I wish you compassion SO incredibly deep that it helps you firmly believe: you were NEVER the problem! ❤️‍🩹

If there’s one voice that shapes your reality — and your relationship with yourself — it’s the one inside your head. So ...
10/10/2025

If there’s one voice that shapes your reality — and your relationship with yourself — it’s the one inside your head. So make sure it’s kind!

And when you forget (because we all do), pause and ask yourself:

“Would I ever talk this way if it were someone I truly loved and cared for?”

If the answer is NO, that’s your cue!

Say what you would say to someone you truly love.

Because I don’t want you to have double standards!

Big shout out to my newest top fan! 💎Khushbu Sah 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Drop a comment to welcome them to our community, fans
27/09/2025

Big shout out to my newest top fan! 💎

Khushbu Sah 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Drop a comment to welcome them to our community, fans

I’m honored to be speaking at the 2025 Transformational ChairWork Therapy Conference.I’ll be joining a panel on “Creatin...
17/09/2025

I’m honored to be speaking at the 2025 Transformational ChairWork Therapy Conference.

I’ll be joining a panel on “Creating the Bridge with Chairwork for Intergenerational and Multicultural Healing.”

This is not just theory for me — it’s lived experience. I grew up in a patriarchal, misogynistic society like Pakistan. And yet, I was given a voice because of my incredible father, a man far ahead of his time. Over the last 25 years of living and working across Asia, Europe, and America, I’ve seen what happens when voices are silenced — and also what becomes possible when they are set free.

My wish is simple and urgent: that every woman, back home and across the world, has the chance to stand in her own power, to be heard without apology, and to lead change.

Chairwork is one way to build that bridge. It gives language to the unheard, dignity to the unseen, and healing to the generations who came before us.

This work matters — because when one voice rises, it clears the way for many more.

Thank you, Scott Kellogg & Amanda Garcia, for inviting me to be part of this amazing journey ♥️

thanks for the amazing Gemini prompt 🦾 Love it! Ps. AI generated - It doesn’t just look like me. It actually “feels” li...
16/09/2025

thanks for the amazing Gemini prompt 🦾 Love it!
Ps. AI generated - It doesn’t just look like me. It actually “feels” like the names I grew up with - Defiant | Difficult | Rebellious | Relentless — and the list goes on ♥️ Sweeet!

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