Beyond Psychology

23/04/2026

Women, we have so much more power than we think. We truly hold the key to societal change. But we have to stop participating in a system that was never built for us to thrive. A system that is now slowly destroying our planet…

We hold the key to true change.

But it takes courage. And to travel from the little girl to a fully embodied, mature, wise, and sovereign woman.

decenter men • patriarchy • empowerment • feminism

23/04/2026

Are men ok?

19/04/2026

My thoughts on the male loneliness epidemic.

10/04/2026

In her newest article Kai Njeri (.tiku) writes about a trauma caused by women not being in tune with their body, innate wisdom, and voice.

A trauma that happens when women don’t receive the time, space, and care they truly need to become a mother, pre- and post-birth. When women are forced into rhythms faster than their natural one, because of efficiency, economy, capitalism, and the male gaze on women’s health.

A gaze we all internalized as our compass, instead of calibrating to our own.

The trauma I am talking about here is birth trauma.

Swipe to read. Full article linked in bio.

29/03/2026

That craving for chips, chocolate, or cheese at the end of a hard day? It's not a lack of willpower.

It's your nervous system doing what it learned to do a long time ago.

Emotional eating doesn't start in the kitchen. It starts in childhood, in the moments where there wasn't enough warmth, safety, or space to feel what you were actually feeling.

Food became the closest thing to comfort available. That's not a character flaw. That's a very human response to pain.

In her latest article on Beyond Psychology, Špela Vehar (.vehar) explores the real roots of emotional eating, and why understanding your nervous system is the first step toward real change.

Read the full article via the link in bio.

08/03/2026

Today I revisited one of my older articles about and rewrote it for you.

Just wanted to share it here because it's an empowerment piece that feels like the right one for .

Enjoy!

Discover the power of decentering men and break free from limiting societal systems that keep women small and disconnected from their power.

08/03/2026

Last Friday I was having a swim in Bangkok, where I am right now.

And I couldn’t help but observe women in bikinis. And it suddenly hit me.

Women are such beautiful, powerful beings, expansive in their energy, beautiful in their shapes.

And then such a bikini… It constricts. It instantly makes the woman smaller, more childlike. It disempowers her.

The women I saw suddenly no longer felt like grown, mature, powerful women, but more like little girls, teenagers, trying to follow dress codes so they won’t be shamed, rejected, or ridiculed.

At the same time they were sexualizing themselves, because so many of us learned that being perceived as sexy by men is somehow part of our value.

And maybe there is also something deeper in that dynamic. Dressing for the male gaze has long been a way of creating proximity to power, because historically men held most of that power.

And proximity to power has always been connected to survival.

Don’t get me wrong. I have been there too, and I recognize it in myself very deeply. But being on the other side of it now, I can feel how liberating it is to step out of that dynamic.

And I can also see more clearly how much it strips women of their true power.

Because the sensuality of women, or women in their true, creative power, almost seems too big for a bikini.

As if that energy simply doesn’t fit inside something so small.

I just noticed that, in some way, life force energy stopped flowing. It felt strangely disempowering to watch.

Can anyone relate?

01/03/2026

Depression during pregnancy is often framed as something going wrong.

In her latest piece, birthworker and womb ecologist Kai Njeri offers a different lens.

What if the body is doing exactly what a garden does in a season of strain... withdrawing from display, turning inward, protecting what matters most?

Kai explores what she calls the Womb Ecology perspective on depression during pregnancy. Not as a mood disorder to fix. Not as a personal failing. But as a signal. A reorganization. A form of intelligence responding to biology, lineage, relational conditions, and the wider world all at once.

When pregnancy unfolds without adequate support, which, for most people today, it does, the body compensates the only way she knows how. She slows. She narrows. She conserves.

What looks like withdrawal may, in fact, be devotion.

If you're pregnant, supporting someone who is, or working in birth, mental health, or women's health, this piece is for you.

📖 Read the full article via link in comments.

19/02/2026

You’re not eating too much. You’re carrying too much.

Most people think emotional eating is about willpower.

You overeat because you're stressed.
You snack because you're bored.
You crave sugar because "you have no control".

But what if the problem isn't food at all?

At Beyond Psychology, we approach this differently.

We see emotional eating (or any form of addiction, numbing, or distracting) as a nervous system pattern.
As a signal.
As a response to inner conflict and stress.

Stress does not just mean "too much work".
Stress often means: you are saying yes when your body says no.
You are staying calm when anger wants to move.
You are being accommodating when something in you feels crossed.

When that inner tension is not resolved, the body shifts into crisis mode. Stress hormones rise. Muscles tighten. Digestion slows. And the system searches for relief.

Food becomes a shortcut.

Not because you are weak.
But because your body is trying to regulate something that has not been expressed.

This is why 'discipline' alone never works.
You cannot solve an emotional conflict with a meal plan.

Trauma-informed, emotion-focused work requires that we look at both sides: the emotional pattern and the physiological response.

Špela Vehar's newest article explores this bridge beautifully. She explains how chronic stress, suppressed needs, and unresolved inner tension drive emotional eating, and why the real solution is not control, but resolution.

If this resonates, I encourage you to read the full piece. It mag change how you see your relationship with food (or any other unhealthy pattern), and with yourself.

You can read the full article via the link in comments below.