21/10/2026
Stepping Outside the System
A system always implies boundaries, limitations and barriers. At the same time, it provides a sense of belonging that most people are drawn to. Within a system, there is safety and predictability, which can be so reassuring. There is a feeling that everything is under control. But stepping outside it means having to face uncertainty, frustration, not belonging, disconnection and the responsibility of being an individual in your own right. And the most important feeling here is that there is no control, only the unknown.
I think these qualities of stepping outside the system are important for anyone who helps others. They are important to me personally. They allow me to listen with an open mind, question my own interpretations and see a person as a whole, especially when they are very different from me and from my own ways of understanding the world.
Curiosity is probably what sharpens my feelings, my thoughts and my perceptions, and saves me from becoming narrow-minded.
And what helps you?
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