10/06/2026
🍃🍂The Wild Edge
In The Wild Edge of Sorrow, Francis Weller suggests that grief is not an isolated experience, but part of a larger emotional ecology, and he spends the book exploring the edges of grief. As I read, I can’t help but feel that if there is a wild edge of sorrow, then there must also be a wild edge of joy, and perhaps a wild edge to many of the emotions we are capable of feeling. The words that title Weller’s book feel important. When we think of things that are wild, we get a sense of the untamed and undomesticated, of the unpolished and uninhibited. And the word “edge” conjures something of freedom, bravery, and courage.
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Wild sorrow is sorrow before we manage it, before we make it reasonable, before we make it palatable for those around us. The wild edge of sorrow is a place beyond the tidy, socially acceptable version of sadness. Perhaps the wild edge of joy is a place where another person’s joy can feel as important as our own. Maybe the wild edge of tenderness is a place where we insist on treating ourselves with the same care we so freely give to others. Or the wild edge of anger is where anger becomes a force for transforming the harm of the world into good.
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It is important to explore our sorrow and our grief rather than tuck it away and numb ourselves from it. Wild joy may be similar. It is not happiness as pleasantness. It is not simply, “everything is going well.” Instead, it is the almost unbearable experience of being alive—the kind of joy that makes you cry because the sunset is too beautiful, because someone you love walks into the room, or because for one second you realize, I am actually here.
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Grief and joy intersect at an interesting paradox. The person willing to say, “This loss matters so much that it can break my heart,” is also saying, whether they realize it or not, “This life matters enormously to me.” Our grief is evidence of attachment, attachment is evidence that something has been precious. What is wild is precious precisely because it asks us to feel without holding back.
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