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You know that voice in your head that replays every awkward interaction, mistake, typo, or mildly embarrassing moment at...
06/05/2026

You know that voice in your head that replays every awkward interaction, mistake, typo, or mildly embarrassing moment at 2am?

Yeah. That one.

Perfectionism usually sounds less like:
“I’d like to improve.”

And more like:
“You absolute idiot, why did you say that?”

That internal critic LOVES replaying the agony over and over.

One of the ways I help clients work with that voice is by giving it a nickname.

“Little Miss Perfect.”
“Captain Overthink.”
“The Internal Yelp Reviewer.”
Whatever fits.

Because oddly enough, humor can help create distance between YOU and the perfectionistic thought spiral.

Instead of:
“I am a failure.”

It becomes:
“Oh hey Little Miss Perfect, we got this, you can take a break”

That tiny shift matters.

Not because the discomfort disappears.
Not because mistakes suddenly feel amazing.

But because playful language can increase self-compassion and make difficult therapeutic concepts feel more approachable.

(Also, sometimes “parts work” sounds a little too much like assembling IKEA furniture emotionally.)

The goal isn’t pretending perfectionism doesn’t exist.

The goal is learning how to respond to yourself with a little less shame and a little more flexibility.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, stress, perfectionism, trauma recovery, and therapy that actually feels human.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

If your perfectionism had a nickname, what would it be? 👀

Sometimes we get stuck replaying the same thought loop over and over.We gather evidence.Build our case.Rehearse every de...
06/04/2026

Sometimes we get stuck replaying the same thought loop over and over.

We gather evidence.
Build our case.
Rehearse every detail.

Why the relationship ended.
Why our boss is awful.
Why we’re right.
Why THEY are wrong.

And honestly? Sometimes people NEED to feel understood before they can move forward.

But eventually there’s a point where continuing to analyze every detail stops being productive and starts becoming emotional quicksand.

That’s where humor can sometimes help.

Not by dismissing the pain.
Not by invalidating the experience.

But by interrupting the spiral long enough to help the brain shift gears.

Because occasionally:
“Your ex does a really great job of being an asshole”

lands harder than replaying the same argument for the 47th time.

Humor can create a pause.
A breath.
A tiny interruption in rigidity.

And sometimes that interruption is exactly what helps people stop spinning long enough to move forward.

The goal isn’t minimizing the situation.

The goal is helping people get unstuck.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, stress, trauma recovery, relationships, and therapy that actually feels human.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

What’s the funniest or most unexpectedly helpful thing someone ever said that snapped you out of a spiral?

Therapy already feels intimidating enough.Most people don’t want to walk into a room and feel like they accidentally sig...
06/03/2026

Therapy already feels intimidating enough.

Most people don’t want to walk into a room and feel like they accidentally signed up for a graduate level psychology lecture.

And honestly? Therapists sometimes forget that.

Mental health has its own language:
✔️ Cognitive distortions
✔️ Attachment styles
✔️ Somatic symptoms
✔️ Physiological response
✔️ Emotional dysregulation

To therapists, those terms make sense.

To everyone else?
It can sound like somebody swallowed a textbook.

That’s part of why humor can matter so much in therapy.

Humor helps remove the “therapy woo woo” and makes difficult concepts feel more approachable.

Sometimes I’ll literally say:
“I know this sounds like woo woo therapy bu****it, but hear me out.”

Usually people laugh.
Then they stay open long enough to actually hear the point underneath it.

Because people are more likely to engage in therapy when:
✔️ They feel comfortable
✔️ They feel understood
✔️ They don’t feel judged
✔️ They don’t feel like a research participant

“Sweaty armpits” lands a little differently than:
“Increased physiological response.”

The goal isn’t to dumb therapy down.

The goal is to make it HUMAN enough that people actually want to show up for it.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, therapy, stress, trauma recovery, and why connection matters in healing.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

What’s the most ridiculous therapy or self-help phrase you’ve ever heard online? 👀

One of the biggest predictors of successful therapy isn’t actually the technique.It’s the relationship.Research consiste...
06/02/2026

One of the biggest predictors of successful therapy isn’t actually the technique.

It’s the relationship.

Research consistently shows that trust, rapport, compatibility, and feeling understood have a bigger impact on therapy outcomes than any specific intervention alone.

Translation?

People do better in therapy when they feel safe enough to actually be honest.

That’s part of why humor can matter so much in sessions.

Humor can:
✔️ Lower defenses
✔️ Reduce shame
✔️ Make therapy feel more approachable
✔️ Help people stay engaged
✔️ Create trust and connection

Because let’s be honest…

Most people don’t walk into therapy excited to emotionally unravel in front of a stranger under fluorescent lighting.

Feeling comfortable matters.

You can actually see this reflected in therapist reviews. People rarely leave reviews saying:
“Wow, the intervention hierarchy was incredible.”

Instead they say:
➡️ “I felt understood.”
➡️ “I didn’t feel judged.”
➡️ “I felt comfortable opening up.”

That connection helps people stay in the room long enough to do the harder work underneath.

The goal isn’t to turn therapy into stand-up comedy.

The goal is to create enough trust and safety for healing to happen.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, therapy, stress, trauma recovery, and why connection matters in mental health treatment.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

Conflict has a way of making people defensive.We put on emotional armor.We brace for impact.We stop listening and start ...
05/29/2026

Conflict has a way of making people defensive.

We put on emotional armor.
We brace for impact.
We stop listening and start preparing rebuttals.

That’s part of why humor can be so powerful in relationships.

Used respectfully, humor can lower defenses just enough for people to reconnect instead of continuing to escalate.

Not because the problem disappears.
Not because serious conversations should turn into stand-up comedy.

But because laughter can interrupt tension and remind people:
“We’re on the same team.”

Humor also helps people stay present and engaged.

Think about the last meeting, presentation, or conversation where someone was genuinely funny or entertaining.

You probably paid more attention.
You probably remembered more of what they said.
You probably felt more connected to them.

That’s because humor can:
✔️ Ease social tension
✔️ Increase trust and rapport
✔️ Help people express feelings more effectively
✔️ Create connection through shared experiences
✔️ Keep people engaged in difficult conversations

The key is HOW it’s used.

Humor that connects is very different from humor that mocks, dismisses, or shuts people down.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, relationships, stress, trauma, and therapy that actually feels human.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

What’s an inside joke or shared moment that instantly helps you reconnect with someone?

One of the biggest predictors of trauma recovery is cognitive flexibility.Translation?Your ability to see more than one ...
05/28/2026

One of the biggest predictors of trauma recovery is cognitive flexibility.

Translation?

Your ability to see more than one perspective about what happened to you.

Trauma often creates rigid thinking:
➡️ “I’m not safe.”
➡️ “I should’ve done something differently.”
➡️ “People can’t be trusted.”
➡️ “I’ll never get past this.”

In PTSD treatment, these are often called “stuck points.”

When the brain gets stuck in one rigid interpretation of an event, the nervous system often stays stuck too.

That’s part of why humor can sometimes help during trauma recovery.

Not because trauma is funny.
Not because people should joke their way through pain.

But because humor can create a tiny moment of flexibility.

A different angle.
A different perspective.
A brief interruption in the spiral.

Humor can remind the nervous system:
“There may be another way to look at this.”

That flexibility is part of what helps people heal.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, trauma recovery, stress, nervous system regulation, and therapy that actually feels approachable.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

Have you ever noticed humor helping you feel less emotionally stuck?

To outsiders, the jokes can sound inappropriate.Inside first responder, military, emergency medicine, and high stress en...
05/27/2026

To outsiders, the jokes can sound inappropriate.

Inside first responder, military, emergency medicine, and high stress environments?

Those same jokes often serve a purpose.

Humor can help signal to the nervous system:
“The danger is over.”

It also communicates something equally important to the people around you:
“You’re not alone in this.”

That doesn’t mean every joke is healthy.
And it doesn’t mean humor replaces processing trauma.

But dark humor often becomes a shared language in environments where people regularly witness stress, tragedy, chaos, and suffering.

Sometimes the joke isn’t about disrespect.

Sometimes it’s about survival.
Sometimes it’s about connection.
Sometimes it’s the nervous system trying to come down from hypervigilance.

The goal isn’t to shame people for using humor.

The goal is understanding when humor is helping people cope—and when it’s becoming the ONLY coping strategy available.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores humor, stress, trauma, first responder culture, and therapy that actually feels human.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

If you work in high stress environments, did humor become part of the culture for you too?

Laughter isn’t just emotional.It’s physical.When we laugh, the body changes:✔️ We take in more oxygen✔️ Heart and lung a...
05/26/2026

Laughter isn’t just emotional.

It’s physical.

When we laugh, the body changes:
✔️ We take in more oxygen
✔️ Heart and lung activity increases
✔️ Endorphins are released
✔️ Muscle tension decreases
✔️ The stress response calms down

Maybe someone tripped.
Maybe the dog barked at the worst possible moment.
Maybe somebody farted.

Did you immediately stay angry… or did the tension break for a second?

Humor changes the emotional temperature in the room because the body physically responds to laughter.

That doesn’t mean humor magically solves conflict or trauma.

But it CAN help people regulate enough to reconnect, think more clearly, and lower defenses.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” breaks down the science behind humor, stress relief, trauma recovery, and why laughter can actually help the nervous system heal.

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

What’s the dumbest thing that ever made you laugh during a stressful moment?

Humor can absolutely be a coping skill.But there’s a difference between:➡️ Using humor to PROCESS somethingand➡️ Using h...
05/25/2026

Humor can absolutely be a coping skill.

But there’s a difference between:
➡️ Using humor to PROCESS something
and
➡️ Using humor to AVOID something entirely.

That awareness matters.

Dark humor, sarcasm, and joking can help lower stress, create connection, and make difficult conversations feel more approachable.

But timing and intention matter too.

Sometimes it really IS too soon to joke about something.

And sometimes the joke becomes the escape hatch that keeps us from having the harder conversation underneath it.

A few questions worth asking yourself:

✔️ Am I joking because I’m uncomfortable?
✔️ Am I using humor to open the door to a conversation?
✔️ Is everyone actually laughing?
✔️ Is this helping me process stress… or helping me avoid it?

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

Have you ever realized afterward that humor was covering up what you actually felt?

Ever hear someone make a joke at the absolute worst possible moment and think, “What the hell?”There’s actually a psycho...
05/22/2026

Ever hear someone make a joke at the absolute worst possible moment and think, “What the hell?”

There’s actually a psychological reason for that.

It’s called gallows humor — humor that makes fun of stressful, terrifying, or painful situations.

And while it can sound shocking to outsiders, people in first responder, emergency medicine, military, and high stress environments often understand exactly why it happens.

Humor can help the nervous system tolerate overwhelming experiences. It can create connection during chaos and remind people they’re not alone in difficult moments.

That doesn’t mean every joke is healthy or appropriate. But humor itself isn’t automatically the problem.

Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist, even wrote about the use of humor to survive horrific conditions.

Our newest blog, “If You Don’t Laugh, You’ll Cry,” explores:

✔️ Why humor helps the brain during stress
✔️ The psychology behind dark humor
✔️ Humor in first responder & military culture
✔️ When humor becomes avoidance
✔️ Why laughter can help people feel connected

📖 Read the blog: https://teletherapymaryland.com/if-you-dont-laugh-youll-cry-using-humor-in-therapy-to-make-it-more-approachable
🎤 Register for the webinar: https://www.aaemerald.com/readiness

Have you ever caught yourself laughing during a stressful or uncomfortable situation?

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