Refuge Counseling of Arkansas

07/10/2026

Ever feel stuck in a loop of the exact same fights in your relationship? 🚦💔

Think about the aftermath of your last conflict. That tightness in your chest, the queasiness in your stomach. 🥴🤢😨 It makes you want to disconnect to protect what’s left. It is a normal response, but true repair requires a bit of emotional situational awareness.

Think of your brain’s 🧠 internal stress signals like traffic lights:

🔴Red Light: You feel defensive, closed off, and ready to shut down or explode 🤯!

🟡Yellow Light: You aren’t completely closed off, but you are highly guarded. You want to reconnect, but you are ready to slam on the brakes at the first sign of blame or misunderstanding.

🟢 Green Light: Your body is relaxed. Your emotions are softer. You are genuinely open to listening, understanding your partner’s pain, and moving towards reconciliation.

Real repair can only happen when you are both green.

✨Take your first step toward lifelong love. Read the full article on our website and schedule your free 15-minute consult here:

Repairing relationships after a fight

06/09/2026

This is from a therapy mentor, George Faller. It is so true! We see it in the office daily. If you can relate, we can help slow things down and get you and your partner on a better path!

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06/06/2026

You ever wonder why punishment does not lead to long-term change in behavior? Check out our newest blog post!

03/03/2026

A real apology is more than “I didn’t mean to…” 💔

It’s pausing long enough to see the impact of your words.
It's acknowledging your partners hurt.
It’s taking responsibility — even when your intention was good.

In close relationships, we will get it wrong sometimes. A sincere apology is the first step toward repair — the moment connection begins to rebuild.

If you’ve ever wondered what a meaningful apology actually sounds like, this article breaks it down.

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Even among the most loving and secure relationships,sometimes we hurt our partners. I promise that I have hurt my wife plenty of times in our relationship, and she has hurt me. It

02/08/2026

If you are seriously dating, engaged, or recently married and want to get started right, our therapist, Adam Maisen and his wife are teaching a 9 week class at Second Baptist Church of Arkadelphia

Register Today using the QR Code. Also the link is in the comments.

02/06/2026

If you are seriously dating, engaged, or in your first couple of years of marriage, our clinical director, Adam Maisen, and his wife are excited to offer the Take My Hand Premarital Course at Second Baptist Church of Arkadelphia. The course will be on Wednesday nights at 6pm starting on February 11, 2026. The course will last for 9 weeks. This is the link if you would like to sign up.

We're glad you're interested in the "Take My Hand" couples enrichment Cluster Group! Our target groups are couples that are seriously dating, engaged, or in the first couple of years of marriage. Starting on February 11, the group will meet for nine weeks on Wednesday nights at 6pm in Kluck Building...

01/23/2026

Ever been in an argument when your partner says, “You’re missing the point!” — and you genuinely don’t know what point they mean?

There’s usually more than one “truth” happening at the same time:
🧠 the facts
💭 the message we perceive
❤️ the emotional impact

When we miss one, we miss each other.

👉 Read the full post to learn what’s really getting lost in conflict and how couples begin to repair instead of escalate.

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