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Terry Real has been a practicing family therapist for more than 25 years. He also regularly appears on Good Morning America.

He is a bestselling author and has been featured on NBC Nightly News, Today, The CBS Early Show and Oprah.

10/28/2026

The next time that familiar argument starts, ask yourself: “What’s my usual move here, and where does it get us?”
You can practice a different response before your partner does. It won’t guarantee they’ll meet you there, but it gives you both a chance to do something other than repeat the same old fight.

10/27/2026

How many of these feel like a language you were never taught?

Most of us grew up learning how to defend ourselves, hide our feelings, or pretend nothing was wrong. We had far fewer examples of how to regulate ourselves, own our part, or stay connected when we’re hurt.

While we may not have been taught these skills growing up, we can learn them now.

Which would you like to hear more often in your relationship?

10/26/2026

Sooner or later, the person you love will disappoint you. And you will disappoint them.
Can you make room for each other’s humanity and still ask for what you need? There’s a lot of love in learning to do both.

10/25/2026

“But what about my feelings?”

Don’t worry, you get a turn, too. Once you’ve settled things down, you can come back to what you need your partner to hear.

But when you’re both fighting to be understood, somebody has to take a breath and be the first to start listening.

10/24/2026

Being a family man means you and your needs are no longer central. What’s central is the team and what they need from you.

10/23/2026

Most of us spend our whole lives chasing the wrong kind of pleasure.

Our culture trains us to pursue the gratification of achievements and admiration. But it will never fill the deeper hunger inside of us for something more.

The wisdom of relational joy is what we and the world desperately need.

The nourishing, lasting fulfillment that comes simply from being present and deeply connected to the people we love.

What kind of pleasure are you building your life around?

10/22/2026

You don’t have to be hard on yourself to become a better person, and you don’t have to be hard on your partner to ask for something to change.

Be clear, be firm, and remember that kindness belongs in the difficult conversations, too.

10/21/2026

Join my live 3-hour workshop with .mindypelz on October 27 to discover how midlife and menopause change a long-term relationship, and how to build one that fits what you need now.

You’ll find the registration link in the first comment below 👇

10/20/2026

You can take responsibility without tearing yourself apart, and you can stand up for yourself without tearing someone else down.

Living a contempt-free life is a gift to yourself and everyone you love.

From my conversation with .

10/19/2026

Stopped saying what you really feel just to keep the peace?

I have a YouTube video on why passion fades in relationships—and how to bring it back!

You’ll find the video link in the first comment below 👇

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