The Black Therapy Page

10/03/2026

Today’s Message:

A hard truth for men rushing into marriage:

Some of y'all will marry anybody just so you can have access to "sin-free s*x." 🙄😩

Now you're trapped in a life of misery just to get a little bit of physical intimacy every now and then.

Let's be real about this:

Physical access to s*x is the bare minimum in a relationship.

Building a life with someone requires:

• Emotional safety
• Mutual respect
• Real friendship and peace

When you marry purely out of s*xual desperation or religious guilt, you trade your long-term peace for short-term gratification.

Brothers, know your worth and value. Marriage is meant to be a sanctuary, not a prison sentence with occasional perks.

Demand more for your life!!!

07/07/2026

🗣️Anytime we are in predominantly white spaces, we are in danger!!!!

Having roots in Mississippi, I know they killed that young brother. We have seen this same type of story happen for years. Up and coming athletes who attends predominantly white schools…goes on trips, vacations, and other activities with their white “friends” but never come back…

Sn: The tactic has always been to use a white girl to lure a brother to his demise…

06/28/2026

Today’s Message:

Some people will cheat on you because they want you to break up with them. It’s a passive aggressive way of communicating their unhappiness to you…

Sadly, instead of taking the hint and instead of leaving, you stay. Begging and pleading and fighting to make them apologize to you; asking them if something is wrong with you, asking them if you are good enough or not…

And it’s in that moment they realize, just how little you love yourself and just how much your lack of self love will let them get away with…so they continue to cheat, you continue to stay.

Stuck in a hamster wheel of perpetual betrayal and pain…

🗣️Get off the hamster wheel!!!

05/29/2026

Today’s Message:

🗣️Red Flags are not Traffic Lights, they do not turn yellow or green!!!

05/25/2026

Today’s Message:

An unhealed Gay Man and an unhealed Straight Man carry very very similar psychological and emotional frameworks. Similar distortions, core beliefs and maladaptive behaviors.

Both have difficulty with self regulation…

Both have difficulty building healthy relationships…

Both lack insight and self awareness…

Both are hyper-s*xual. Often due to childhood s*xual abuse…

Both live with Shame…so they project shame on others…

Both are angry, violent, passive aggressive and highly sensitive to criticism (even when it’s constructive)(no matter how nice its given)

Both facilitate connection with their bodies, bank accounts or social status..not with their personalities, vulnerability and intellect…

Both have insecurities connected to childhood trauma…so both use manipulation, love bombing and deceptive masking to hide their true identities and to facilitate connection…

Both lack accountability and self discipline…

Both have a victim narrative identity story….

Both lack self love so they can’t reciprocate love to others…

Both help create Broken Homes…

Both become baby fathers with baby mommas…

Both have negative impacts on the community…

Both do harm to the community…

Both are toxic to the community..

Both perpetuates stereotypes that are harmful to the community…

Why is this the case?

🗣️Because both are MEN and this is how unhealed Men, living in psychological pain, but unaware they are in psychological pain, behave!!!!

05/22/2026

Today’s Message:

🗣️Your wife is not your mother….

You can’t throw tantrums, lie, cheat and treat her any kind of way and expect her to still be home, tucking u in bed at night with a big smile and a warm snack….

That’s just not how adult relationships work my friend…

Eventually she will disconnect from you, disengage from you and divorce you.

05/20/2026

05/17/2026

Today’s Message:

If your father was inconsistent, gave broken promises, flaked on you, stood you up and gave a lot of apologies with no changed behavior; then the men you attract/date will have the type of characteristics that will require this of you as well!!

Sometimes we truly are attracted to the worst parts of our parents that are hidden within the good parts of people’s potential…

Ways to address this:

-Implement Boundaries

-Heal your inner child

-Love thy self more than you desire
to be loved by someone else

05/14/2026

Today’s Message:

One Sad Truth in our community is that if you’re a gay black man, some black men and women will let their white friends call you a “nigga” while they both simultaneously call you a “faggot”

But yet black gay men rally behind and with you, fighting your specific injustices, even while they know you are the primary cause of theirs…

One other sad truth is that a lot of black gay men support various
Black households…Stepping in and stepping up, sacrificing to fill the voids & gaps in the families lives and children’s lives that black str8 men deny, abandon, neglect or simply just don’t have the means to provide for…

All of this is done with no recognition, no appreciation and sometimes with lots of judgement, hate and shame…

It’s time to change that!!!

It’s time to stop demonizing black gay men!!

As without their light, protection and provision, some of our most vulnerable may never see sunshine through any of the seasons of life…

05/06/2026

Today’s Message:

Some of you will empty your pockets on a woman but won’t pay for a lawyer to legitimize your own kid…

Some of you will work 2-3 jobs & hours of overtime just to save the money to take care of your woman but won’t save up, work 2-3 jobs or overtime to fight for custody of your own kid…

If you know what it felt like to not have your dad in your life, why would you not try and do all you can to be in your own kids life?

If this is you, take some time and reflect and put the work in to do and be better…

Remember, your absence as a father, is sometimes more impactful to the child than the presence of a mother…