04/08/2023
Good insights to practice with children of any age!
When we are frustrated at our children, they likely do not have empathy for our feeling, they are instead internalizing that something is wrong with them, that they are not ok. This happens whether we like it or not. When we are anxious around our children, or shut down around our children, or annoyed with our children or fixing our children, they are internalizing these messages related to their self-worth. Now none of us are perfect, we are human, and we are going to have human reactions to our children. So, what can we do? We can repair! We can take ownership for our reactions are about us, not our kids. I am sorry I had a tone in my voice this morning when we were leaving for school. I reacted when I thought we were going to be late. I am not upset with you. We may think our kids understand why we are upset and sometimes they do, but frequently kids absorb that our emotions are about them. How we react to our children imprints strongly on their developing sense of self. So, if you reacted negatively to your child, own it, take accountability and repair. Your child did not cause your feeling.
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