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Some things in the Muslim community have been called private when they were really dangerous. We’ve told women to be pat...
06/20/2026

Some things in the Muslim community have been called private when they were really dangerous. We’ve told women to be patient, men to be strong, and families to stay together while people were breaking down inside them.
We’ve excused control, fear, coercion, and harm because the person prayed, taught, donated, led, or knew the right Islamic words to say

My topic is What We Call Patience: Spiritual Abuse, Domestic Violence, and the Silence That Protects Harm.

Why do victims stay quiet?Why do communities support abuse and don’t see the role they play? How does fear change the nervous system? What to do when someone says, “I’m not safe.”

“Pray about it” isn’t a safety plan.
Saturday. 6/20. In Raleigh
Next one could be in your community. Send a message- Auntie Ny

06/08/2026

You don’t need another nap. You need relief. You call it stress because labeling it for what it really requires you to admit how much you’ve been carrying and you’re overloaded.

You’ve been carrying grown people. Their feelings. Their problems. Trying to protect them from the consequences of their choices. Moving to meet their expectations.

You’ve been carrying everybody so long you think exhaustion is your personality.
It ain’t. You’ve gotten so used to being the one everybody calls you don’t notice what’s happening.
Meanwhile, you’re disappearing. Your patience is getting shorter and shorter. You struggle to find a moment of joy. Your body is always tired. It’s gotten harder to lean on your faith. Relationships? Many days, you don’t want to talk to anyone.
The scary part is you think this is normal.
I can hear someone saying, “But if I don’t do it, who will?”

That question keeps you stuck. Somewhere, you decided, responsibility was going to be your name! Today, you carry things God never assigned to you.

If everybody has a piece of you and you’re not sure what’s left, comment HEAVY.
I’ve got a free download to figure out whether you’re simply busy or emotionally overloaded. If you already know the answer, this is definitely for you.-Auntie Ny

I’ll be the first, and the second, to tell you faith and prayer matter. When someone is mentally unwell, prayer can’t be...
05/27/2026

I’ll be the first, and the second, to tell you faith and prayer matter. When someone is mentally unwell, prayer can’t be the only answer. A comforting or respected title doesn’t mean someone knows how to recognize psychosis, bipolar disorder, suicidality, trauma, or when emergency care is needed.

Even licensed clinicians have to know when something is beyond their scope and a higher level of care is needed. Some folks don’t know what that means, what to look for, or how to get it.

I’ve heard clergy tell folks , “You just got to work it out” or “Have another baby.” Basically, no real guidance with structure, and not one referral to hand out. Sometimes, a trusted person genuinely doesn’t know how to help. When you’re trained, you know there is something to do even if you don’t know what to do!

You refer. You consult. You connect people to qualified care. You might even call 911!
One of the things I know to be hard to assess is suicidal tendencies. Those symptoms hide in plain view! Life experience alone won’t do it. Being able to speak well ain’t enough.

When lives are involved, we can’t afford to have folks guessing. Good intentions don’t replace training and an emotional prayer won’t rule out the need for an assessment or qualified care.

Sometimes the most faithful thing you do is admit, “It’s above me now!” and get that person connected to someone who knows what they’re doing. -Auntie Ny

05/24/2026

Stop accepting half-prepared love. Some of y’all are tired because you keep attaching to people who give you attention, but nothing secure. Grounded. Safe. 

They call. They flirt. They say they want nothing but you. He said you were the sweetest thing he’s seen all day! Then you’re left guessing, waiting, overthinking, and trying to figure out what changed. Cause he’s having another moment of silence with you! This confusion is your pain point.

In my next class, I’m teaching women how to spot emotionally unavailable patterns before they get attached. If this keeps happening to you, stay tuned. -Auntie Ny

A hard truth a lot of people miss:Love and emotional discipline are not the same thing.Some people love deeply but still...
05/22/2026

A hard truth a lot of people miss:

Love and emotional discipline are not the same thing.

Some people love deeply but still have unhealthy habits they never worked on. That’s why somebody can cry over you, miss you, pray for you, and still keep hurting you the same way.

Pay attention to patterns, not just feelings.

Feelings matter.
Behavior matters too. -Auntie Ny

You can love your mother and still be tired from her. Folks don’t always know what to do with this. I’ve got a place for...
05/18/2026

You can love your mother and still be tired from her. Folks don’t always know what to do with this. I’ve got a place for you.

You may not hate her. You may not want to cut her off. You may understand why she is the way she is. But understanding her does not erase what it cost you.

These Mother Wound classes are for folks carrying guilt for needing more from a mother who gave what she could, but not what you needed.

We’re going to talk about the ache, the anger, the guilt, the hope, and the part of you that feels wrong for wanting better. But you do. Not so you can “process it.”
So you can stop living like your healing has to wait on her to change. Class 2 and 3 remain. Join us. You won’t be behind. Click and start tonight. 7:30. EDT. On zoom. -Auntie Ny

05/08/2026

Many women learned how to endure before they ever learned to rest. This wasn’t intentional. You weren’t unloved. If this hit your chest, The Mother Wound 3-Part virtual class may be for you.

And if you’re struggling with your mother/daughter relationship, the space is for you too. Enrollment ends on Monday at noon. Link in bio.

05/04/2026

“She did her best” might be true.

But why’re you still hurting?
We’re getting into this in The Mother Wound Class.

Type MOTHER if this one sat heavy.
Then, go to my Linktree and get in the class.

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