12/10/2025
Four years ago, I was working with a veteran who kept getting stuck in the same emotional loop. He understood his patterns. He had the skills. But nothing shifted. Then I realized he was blaming his buttons instead of taking ownership of them.
In 2021, I started building this workbook. I pulled together what I knew about emotional intelligence and the buttons we all carry. The 5 Button Reset Workbook gives people 30 days of straight work. They learn their five buttons, Control, Rejection, Abandonment, Failure, and Shame, and they start responding on purpose instead of reacting out of habit. By day 30, something changes. They stop feeling controlled by their emotions.
Picture this. A client walks in and says, “My button got pressed and I handled it differently this time.” That moment matters.
Clinicians want to see clients win. This workbook helps them do real work that leads to real progress.
I tell my clients at the end of most sessions that Emotional Accountability is Your Responsibility, meaning your triggers show you what needs attention and your buttons guide the choices you make next. When people understand that difference, they take control of their growth.
