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05/21/2026

Inner child work is something that everyone needs to know about- even secure parents who are currently raising children.

When we’re young, we absorb everything that happens around us, and don’t know how to distinguish our parents yelling at each other from us being at fault and defective.

We carry that throughout our entire lives in the form of self-worth deficiencies and negative core beliefs, until we confront and reframe those memories.

None of us were born defective, we just incorrectly learned to believe so because our parents didn’t have the knowledge that we have access to.

In 2026, there’s no excuse to not do the work or to raise your kids with insecurities.


05/20/2026

Getting stuck on the “what-ifs”, the self-blame, and the psychology rabbit holes of what’s wrong by with them can all be effective, but eventually you want to break free from it all.

Grief sucks… and the only way to move forward is through.

The best way to do that is to accept what happened, pick up the pieces, and find optimism for the future.

Avoidants are traumatized people who don’t commonly confront their demons.

Now it’s up to you to decide if you want to confront your own, and come out the other side as a f***ing phoenix from the ashes.

Heal from it, grow from it, be better because of it.

You’ve got this.


05/19/2026

Without awareness, we’re drawn toward partners and dynamics that mirror our wounds and/or insecurities…

Insecure attachers create self-fulfilling prophecies by subconsciously gravitating toward the very people who will reinforce your negative core beliefs.

That’s because those dynamics and those partners are familiar to you… and familiar is safer than the healthier unknown.

By raising your awareness and healing through your wounds, you’ll be able to change your dating patterns for the better and stop wasting your time with emotionally unavailable idiots.


05/18/2026

We should be hesitant to assume someone’s attachment style, and it also shouldn’t matter so much…

Instead, ask yourself how they make you feel, if they’re consistent, communicative, and self-aware.

If they display avoidant tendencies, then don’t stick around or try to prove yourself to them- it’s as simple as that.

The current dating culture is kind of bleak, but I’m personally keeping hope 🤞🏼you should too.


05/17/2026

“They’re just not that into you” is true in some cases…

But when it comes to real connections involving nervous system reactions, this is why avoidants fear commitment.

When that’s the case, it’s actually the opposite… they push you away BECAUSE they’re into you, and their body is telling them to run away from that danger.

Again, it’s helpful to understand it… but also important to know that you don’t have the ability to override their fears or force them to process their past.


05/16/2026

The most important part of entering into the dating world is to have a secure foundation for yourself.

That includes being content with your current life, whatever that might look like for you.

Then, you should know what you want in a partner and know the actual red flags to look out for.

Years ago, taking things slow, having boundaries for myself, and knowing when to walk away were completely foreign things to me.

Now that I’ve done a TON of work on myself and have addressed my insecurities, it’s like I see everything through a new, secure lens.

You can get there too.


05/14/2026

Anyone who views physical intimacy as less than a way to connect with people probably has some stuff to work on…

If it’s regarded as a coping mechanism or a way to raise your self-worth, that’s not just going to change once you enter a relationship.

And unfortunately, our society and politics have attempted to normalize just sleeping around with anyone.

If you’re looking for someone healthy, I suggest you find a person who doesn’t subscribe to the idiocy, and is capable of forming their own perspective.


05/13/2026

All insecure attachment styles share the common thread of dating other insecure attachers.

This is due to different fears but similar beliefs that relationships don’t really work, which is usually tied to self-worth deficiencies…

Once you become more secure in yourself, you’ll stop chasing other insecure attachers, only accept healthy behaviors, and change the narrative.


05/10/2026

Attachment theory is just a framework at the end of the day…

We can’t get stuck in the labels- it’s more about processing/reframing any negative experiences that have given you a negative perception of yourself and other people.

In order to heal through negative core beliefs, we need to confront/reframe negative experiences into more neutral ones.


05/09/2026

We attract people based on our fears, wounds, and insecurities…

Sometimes we try to fix ourselves by re-enacting our childhood in an attempt to change the outcome.

Other times, we just want to prove that we’re good enough by receiving validation from people who don’t want us.

The solution is to confront and reframe those prior memories that led to those negative beliefs and self-worth deficiencies.

Once you do that, you’ll break the pattern of wanting to be with people who are unhealthy for you.


05/07/2026

Many people remain stuck on their avoidant ex because they CHOOSE to not fully let go.

It’s a daily, repetitive decision to remind yourself that they’re unhealthy, and that you’re better off without them.

It’s also a decision to acknowledge that your compulsion to want them back might very well stem from your earlier wounds.

Once you DECIDE to confront those wounds, you’ll look at the situation through a much different lens of self-worth and self-respect.


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