Shiloh Counseling LLC

Shiloh Counseling LLC Dr. Clay Brigance is the founder, clinical director and lead counselor at Shiloh Counseling, LLC. Clay is also able to see couples.

Clay's passion in therapy is to join you on your life journey to finding wholeness again. Clay is a doctorate level counselor who is able to see pre-teens and teens age 10 and up, as well as adults. Clay is also uniquely qualified to do psychological evaluations for children age 6 to 17. With nearly 10 years of experience as a school psychologist in the public schools, Clay can provide an informat

ive evaluation for your child to help you find answers as well as guide you through the IEP process in plan language. However, Clay's ultimate passion is counseling individuals and couples who are navigating infertility and reproductive loss. Clay has become a leading researcher and therapist for this special population, being a featured speaker for the Institute of Reproductive Grief Care, The Crossing Church, and The American Psychological Association for how to counsel couples navigating infertility.

06/08/2026

A little different from my usual videos.

Tired. Exhausted, actually. Recorded this on the fly.

Last night at 10:15 PM, I submitted my book manuscript to APA: Couple Therapy for Reproductive Grief.

This book has been years in the making — shaped by research, therapy rooms, couples’ stories, and my own lived experience with infertility.

After I submitted it, I poured a little bourbon to celebrate and to remember where I came from in Kentucky — the place that shaped so much of who I am.

It feels surreal to send this work off.

Mostly, I just feel grateful. Grateful for the couples who trusted me with their grief. Grateful for the chance to help therapists better understand this work. And grateful that reproductive grief is being given more space, language, and care.

More soon.

Resources: www.drclaybrigance.com
Podcast: Love and Infertility

06/02/2026

Any other couples going through infertility have decision fatigue like we did?

There are so many decisions.

When to start trying.
When to seek help.
Which clinic to choose.
Which treatment path to take.
How much to spend.
When to pause.
When to keep going.
When to grieve.
When to hope.

And each decision can feel emotionally loaded because it isn’t just about logistics — it’s about your body, your relationship, your future, and the family you’re longing for.

For couples, decision fatigue can quietly turn into conflict. One partner may feel urgency while the other feels overwhelmed. One may want more information while the other needs a break.

That doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It means you’re carrying something heavy together.

Sometimes the most important thing couples can do is slow down, name the weight of the decision, and remember: this is not you versus your partner.

It’s the two of you facing something hard together.

For more resources on infertility, grief, and relationships:
www.drclaybrigance.com

Podcast: Love and Infertility

05/07/2026

Episode 7 of Love and Infertility is live 🎙️

This week, we’re joined by Emily Hockstra—coach, author, and speaker—for a conversation about grief, healing, identity, and the unexpected realities of navigating infertility and surrogacy.

Emily shares her story with honesty, humor, and so much heart. We talk about what it looks like to carry loss while still moving forward—and how healing doesn’t mean leaving your story behind.

This one is real, vulnerable, and deeply meaningful 💛

Listen here:
Website: https://www.drclaybrigance.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/326IpwHCa0diGyJIz4QgZj
YouTube: .ClayBrigance ❤️

05/04/2026

Grief and healing can exist at the same time.

This Thursday, May 7 🎙️
A new episode of Love and Infertility featuring Emily Hockstra—coach, author, and speaker.

In this conversation, we process both her grief journey and her healing journey.

What it looked like to sit with the loss.
How it shaped her identity.
And how she began to move forward—without leaving her story behind.

This one is honest.
And hopeful.

If you’ve experienced infertility or loss, this conversation will stay with you 💛

Listen here:
Website: https://www.drclaybrigance.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/326IpwHCa0diGyJIz4QgZj
YouTube: .ClayBrigance

04/25/2026

The fountain at Shiloh was lit orange this week for Infertility Awareness Week 🧡

Today marks the last day of NIAW.

But infertility doesn’t end today.
For many, the waiting continues.
The grief continues.
The questions continue.

So do we.

Continuing to show up, to create space for these conversations, and to support the individuals and couples walking through this every day.

You're not alone in it.

04/23/2026

Guys...our episode with Chad and Justine is LIVE 🧡 🎙️

I’m really excited about this one.

Justine and Chad share their story navigating infertility together—what it looked like to move through grief, stay connected, and support each other in the middle of it.

It’s real.
And it captures so much of what couples go through during this experience.

If you’re walking through infertility with a partner, this is a conversation worth listening to.

Listen here:
Website: https://www.drclaybrigance.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/326IpwHCa0diGyJIz4QgZj
YouTube: .ClayBrigance

04/21/2026

This Thursday, April 23 🎙️

We are keeping our episode streak going for Infertility Awareness Week 🧡

A new episode of Love and Infertility featuring Justine Froelker and Chad Froelker, very dear friends of mine.

If you know Justine and Chad, you know they don't hold back on their story. They're honest and real.

In this conversation, Justine and Chad share their story navigating infertility together—what it looked like to move through grief, stay connected, and support each other in the midst of it.

It’s honest.
It’s meaningful.
And it speaks to what so many couples experience but don’t always have language for.

If you’re walking through infertility as a couple, this is a conversation worth listening to.

Listen here:
Website: https://www.drclaybrigance.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/326IpwHCa0diGyJIz4QgZj
YouTube: .ClayBrigance

04/20/2026

Infertility is often a silent struggle—but it shouldn’t have to be.

Grateful to be on KMOV St. Louis this morning with Meghan Drakas to talk about National Infertility Awareness Week 💛

These conversations matter. When we bring infertility into the open, we help individuals and couples feel seen, understood, and less alone in what they’re carrying.

If this topic resonates with you, I’ve been sharing more this week—including a deeply personal conversation with my wife about our own journey.

You're not alone in this.

04/20/2026

Happy Infertility Awareness Week 💛

This week matters.

It’s a time to recognize the emotional weight so many individuals and couples carry—often quietly—through infertility and reproductive loss.

To mark this week, we’re sharing something deeply personal.

My wife, Marjorie, and I are telling our story—what infertility looked like for us, how it impacted our relationship, and what helped us stay connected through it.

This episode is vulnerable.
But it’s also practical—real things that helped us navigate this together.

If you’re walking through infertility, you’re not alone.

Listen here:
Website: https://www.drclaybrigance.com/podcast
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/326IpwHCa0diGyJIz4QgZj
YouTube: .ClayBrigance

04/17/2026

For Infertility Awareness Week next week, we’re sharing something deeply personal.

My wife, Marjorie, and I will be telling our story.

Our journey through infertility—what it looked like behind the scenes, how it impacted us individually and as a couple, and what helped us stay connected through it.

This episode is vulnerable.

But it’s also practical.

We’ll be sharing not just what we went through, but what we learned—what helped, what didn’t, and what couples can actually do to navigate this together.

If you’re walking through infertility, you’re not alone.

More soon.

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