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Clover Counseling Services Our therapists are able to help you with just about any issue that you are having. Each therapist sp We have experience in treating a myriad of issues.

It is our mission to create a welcoming environment where people can heal. We treat individuals, couples, families, and children starting at the age of four. We also offer Hypnotic downloads and CDs for sale on our website. We take great pride in giving great respect and care to our clients in a professional manner. There are six therapists in our office. Check us out to see if one of our therapists is a good match for you.

In a world that constantly praises "hustle" and glorifies being busy, it's easy to believe that our value depends on how...
10/17/2026

In a world that constantly praises "hustle" and glorifies being busy, it's easy to believe that our value depends on how much we do.

But the truth is that your worth is not tied to checklists, deadlines or how many hours your work.
✨ You are valuable simply because you exist
✨ You are worth on the days you rest
✨ You are enough when you slow down, when you say "no", and when you take time for yourself

Productivity is something you create, not something you are. You are so much more💚

10/16/2026

Thought for the Day: Your subconscious mind is one of the most powerful tools you have. What positive affirmation are you telling yourself today?
Start with one or two negative suggestions you’ve been telling yourself and rewrite them as positive self affirmations! You will see your behavior change.

Need help? Ask me how to rewrite one of your negative thoughts and I will reply.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Phil 4:8

10/16/2026

Thought for the Day: Your subconscious mind is one of the most powerful tools you have. What positive affirmation are you telling yourself today?
Start with one or two negative suggestions you’ve been telling yourself and rewrite them as positive self affirmations! You will see your behavior change.

Need help? Ask me how to rewrite one of your negative thoughts and I will reply.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Phil 4:8

Thought for the day: How does the time you spend on social media affect you? While social media can provide a way to co...
10/15/2026

Thought for the day: How does the time you spend on social media affect you? While social media can provide a way to connect, it can also be very draining. Noticing how you feel after spending time on social media can give you insight into how to set boundaries around the time you spend online. Check out the graphic below for some great tips on social media boundaries.

“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise” Ephesians 5:15

When life feels overwhelmingly heavy, don’t overlook the little things that bring comfort: a good cup of coffee, sunshin...
10/14/2026

When life feels overwhelmingly heavy, don’t overlook the little things that bring comfort: a good cup of coffee, sunshine through the window, a favorite song, or a good laugh.

These micro joys don’t erase macro grief; they simply can give you small moments of relief while you carry something big.

“The joy of the Lord is your strength.”
Nehemiah 8:10

Thought for the DayIntensity Can Be Confused with Intimacy— Dr. Patrick CarnesSometimes what feels like a powerful conne...
10/13/2026

Thought for the Day

Intensity Can Be Confused with Intimacy
— Dr. Patrick Carnes

Sometimes what feels like a powerful connection isn't necessarily intimacy.

Intensity can feel exciting and consuming. There may be constant communication, an immediate sense of closeness, emotional highs and lows, urgency, fear of losing the relationship, or the feeling that you simply have to be with this person.

Those feelings are real — but strong feelings don't automatically mean a relationship is emotionally intimate.

Intensity says:
“I need you to feel okay.”
“I need to know where I stand right now.”
“I can't tolerate this distance.”
“This feels so powerful, so it must be love.”

Intimacy develops differently.

It grows through consistency, emotional safety, honesty, vulnerability, mutual respect, boundaries, accountability, and time.

Intimacy allows us to say:

“I can love you without losing myself.”
“We can disagree without threatening the relationship.”
“I can tell you what I need without controlling your response.”
“I don't have to earn your love by abandoning myself.”
“We can be close and still be two separate people.”

For people who have experienced inconsistent relationships, abandonment, trauma, codependency, or unhealthy attachment patterns, peace may initially feel unfamiliar, even boring. The nervous system can become accustomed to pursuing, withdrawing, reconciling, worrying, rescuing, or waiting for the next emotional high.

That can make chaos feel like chemistry and intensity feel like intimacy.

Healing may mean learning that healthy love doesn't have to keep us emotionally activated in order to be meaningful.

Intensity can happen quickly.
Intimacy is built.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
— 1 Peter 4:8 (NIV)

Stacey Abraham, LMSW
Clover Counseling – Cordova Location
Real People. Brighter Tomorrows.

10/12/2026

Emotional Triggers vs. Actual Mistreatment

Being triggered doesn't always mean you've been wronged. Sometimes the most important conversation isn't the one you need to have with someone else. It's the one you need to have with yourself.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

10/11/2026

You may be creating a lot of your own anxiety.

Before you get mad at me, I’m not saying anxiety isn’t real. It absolutely is.

I’m saying that sometimes the original problem is only the spark. Our thinking pours gasoline on it.

Someone doesn’t text back.

FACT: They haven’t responded yet.

ANXIETY: They’re upset with me. I said something wrong. Something happened. They’re avoiding me. Our relationship is changing.

See what happened there?

Your brain took one piece of information and wrote an entire screenplay. 🎬

We do it with work, relationships, health, parenting, money and our futures.

We predict.
We mind-read.
We catastrophize.
We rehearse imaginary conversations.
We try to solve problems that haven’t happened.

And then our bodies respond to those thoughts as though the danger is already here.

So when you feel anxiety building, try this:

What do I actually KNOW?

What am I assuming?

What else could be true?

Is there something useful I can do right now?

If not, can I allow this to remain uncertain?

You may not be able to stop the first anxious thought from arriving.

But you don’t have to invite it in, make it coffee, and let it run the meeting.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
Philippians 4:6

You may be creating a lot of your own anxiety.Before you get mad at me, I’m not saying anxiety isn’t real. It absolutely...
10/11/2026

You may be creating a lot of your own anxiety.

Before you get mad at me, I’m not saying anxiety isn’t real. It absolutely is.

I’m saying that sometimes the original problem is only the spark. Our thinking pours gasoline on it.

Someone doesn’t text back.

FACT: They haven’t responded yet.

ANXIETY: They’re upset with me. I said something wrong. Something happened. They’re avoiding me. Our relationship is changing.

See what happened there?

Your brain took one piece of information and wrote an entire screenplay. 🎬

We do it with work, relationships, health, parenting, money and our futures.

We predict.
We mind-read.
We catastrophize.
We rehearse imaginary conversations.
We try to solve problems that haven’t happened.

And then our bodies respond to those thoughts as though the danger is already here.

So when you feel anxiety building, try this:

What do I actually KNOW?

What am I assuming?

What else could be true?

Is there something useful I can do right now?

If not, can I allow this to remain uncertain?

You may not be able to stop the first anxious thought from arriving.

But you don’t have to invite it in, make it coffee, and let it run the meeting.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
Philippians 4:6

This is a great reminder, because mental health is like physical health, and going to counseling when needed is as impor...
10/10/2026

This is a great reminder, because mental health is like physical health, and going to counseling when needed is as important as going to the doctors office when needed. And just like going to the doctors office for a check up, going to counseling to learn how to strengthen our mental health resiliency should be a priority! Take care of yourself; mind, body and soul!

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Bartlett, TN
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