Brenda Winkle Empowerment, LLC

06/10/2026

Watching this conversation between and reminded me of something I talked about in Episode 268 of Your Yes-Filled Life:

Most empaths think this is kindness. It isn’t.

One thing I appreciate about Adam’s perspective is that he challenges the assumption that people-pleasing is always generous.

Because sometimes what we call kindness is actually self-abandonment.

Now, before anyone panics...

I’m not talking about compassion.

I’m not talking about generosity.

I’m not talking about caring deeply about other people.

Those are beautiful qualities.

I’m talking about the moments when you know what you want...

you know what you need...

you know what feels true for you...

and then immediately start prioritizing everyone else’s comfort, reactions, or expectations instead.

Many empaths don’t struggle because they care too much.

They struggle because they’ve learned that other people’s experiences matter more than their own.

And if you’ve spent years avoiding conflict, disappointment, rejection, or disapproval, not people-pleasing may not feel safe.

That’s why this isn’t just a mindset issue.

It’s often a nervous system issue.

You can know the boundary.

You can know the answer.

You can know what feels right.

And still struggle to act on it.

Not because you’re broken.

Because your nervous system is trying to protect you.

The good news?

You can learn to care deeply about others without abandoning yourself in the process.

And that’s where self-trust begins.

Thank you and for such an important conversation on his show, “ReThinking”

🎧 If you’re interested in the empath perspective listen to Episode 268 of Your Yes Filled Life.
“Most Empaths Think This Is Kindness. It Isn’t.”

06/10/2026

One of the biggest shifts I see in the empaths I work with is this:

They stop confusing self-abandonment with kindness.

Not because they become less caring.

Because they begin recognizing that their experience matters too.

They know the conversation they want to have.

They know the boundary they want to set.

They know the decision they’ve been postponing.

The challenge usually isn’t clarity.

It’s believing their needs, feelings, and knowing deserve the same consideration they’ve spent years giving everyone else.

That’s why this week’s podcast episode is such an important conversation.

Not because I want you to care less.

Because I want your experience to matter as much as everyone else’s.

🎧 Listen to:
Most Empaths Think This Is Kindness. It Isn’t.

Available now wherever you listen to podcasts.

06/10/2026

Imagine trusting yourself enough to tell the truth.

Not because it’s easy.

Not because everyone agrees.

But because your experience matters too.

Many empaths spend years prioritizing other people’s feelings, expectations, and comfort.

They know what they want.

They know what they need.

They know what feels true.

But somewhere along the way, they learned that honoring those things might disappoint someone else.

So they stay quiet.

Say yes.

Wait.

Shrink.

Not because they don’t know.

Because they’re afraid of the consequences of knowing.

The goal isn’t becoming less caring.

The goal is learning how to care about yourself with the same compassion you’ve always offered everyone else.

🎧 In this week’s episode, we’re exploring what happens when everyone else’s experience matters more than your own—and how to begin changing that.

06/09/2026

06/09/2026

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06/09/2026

Before you dismiss that reaction...

Before you tell yourself you’re overreacting...

Before you convince yourself to “just let it go”...

Pause.

Maybe you’re angry because you don’t agree.

Maybe you’re frustrated because something feels unfair.

Maybe you’re upset because you don’t feel seen, heard, or considered.

Maybe your reaction is trying to tell you something important.

Many empaths have spent years learning to prioritize everyone else’s feelings, needs, and experiences.

So when they have a strong reaction, the first question becomes:

“How do I stop feeling this?”

Instead of:

“What might this be telling me?”

The goal isn’t to argue.

The goal isn’t to make someone else wrong.

The goal is to become curious about your own experience.

Because your feelings, needs, preferences, and wisdom matter too.

And if you’re an empath, there’s a good chance you learned they didn’t.

That’s exactly what we’re exploring in Episode 267 of Your Yes-Filled Life:

When Did You Learn That Everyone Else’s Needs Matter More Than Yours?

Available now wherever you listen to podcasts.

06/08/2026

You know what fascinates me?

Most empaths think they have a clarity problem.

They don’t.

They know.

They notice.

They sense what’s happening.

They understand the situation from multiple angles.

The challenge usually isn’t awareness.

The challenge is staying connected to themselves when other people’s opinions, expectations, emotions, or reactions get involved.

That’s when self-doubt creeps in.

That’s when reassurance starts sounding more trustworthy than your own knowing.

That’s when you begin treating everyone else’s experience as more important than your own.

If you’ve ever thought:

👉 “Why is it so easy to trust everyone else but so hard to trust myself?”

that’s exactly what we’re exploring inside my free masterclass:

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You’ll learn why self-trust becomes harder under stress, overwhelm, and change and how to reconnect with your own signal.

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06/08/2026

One of the biggest misconceptions about self-trust is that it’s something you earn after you’ve healed enough, learned enough, or become confident enough.

But what if self-trust starts somewhere simpler?
What if it starts when your needs, feelings, preferences, and wisdom finally get a seat at the table?

Many empaths spend years giving everyone else’s experience more weight than their own.

Then they wonder why they feel disconnected from themselves.

The goal isn’t perfection.

The goal is remembering:
My experience matters too.
What decision in your life would change if your experience carried equal weight?

This is what we are talking about in episode 266 of Your Yes Filled Life. Top 5% globally. Find it on all platforms.

06/05/2026

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