10/18/2026
Your client says, “I don’t know.”
But does the next step need to be another question?
We can become so focused on helping someone describe their experience that we leave less room for them to experience it.
A sensation doesn’t have to become a sentence. A client may notice something without knowing what it means—or needing to explain it to us.
For the provider, this offers an opportunity to notice our own response to uncertainty.
Do we feel pressure to make something happen? Does silence start to feel like we’re being ineffective? Are we looking for words to reassure ourselves that the work is moving?
In Brainspotting and Digging Roots, there is room for experience without an ongoing verbal account. Yet even when we understand this, we may still feel the pull to ask, interpret, or seek confirmation.
We might pause and consider:
Can we stay attentive without needing the experience explained?
Can we notice our urge to intervene without immediately acting on it?
Can we allow “I don’t know” to stand without needing to resolve it?
Sometimes the next useful step begins with making room for what hasn’t become clear.
As we look ahead to Digging Roots in Los Angeles, we’re inviting this conversation: How do we stay engaged and curious when we don’t yet know where the work will lead?
What helps you resist the urge to fill the silence?
LA South Bay - Nov 6-8 2026
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