08/12/2026
If you’re my age, give or take a few years, you probably immediately knew where this quote came from:
“You see us as you want to see us…”
This morning I was journaling with the prompt: Who am I becoming, and what does she already believe about herself?
You might think a woman old enough to quote The Breakfast Club would have already Arrived. Become. Landed. But for me, with age has come a greater willingness to look with clear eyes and an open heart at the deepest parts of who I am & my soul purpose.
Over the past few days, I’ve received some generous, kind & beautifully different reflections about how others see me, experience me, and connect with my essence.
And in reflecting on this, my quirky intuition immediately went to the final scene in The Breakfast Club…
People see us as they want to see us. In the simplest terms and the most convenient definitions.
I believe that who we are at the soul level is difficult to put language to, categorize or name. We are far too expansive & limitless to be put in one box. So as we’re doing the work of discovering, rediscovering, uncovering who we are, I offer the suggestion to be careful with naming and claiming any one “thing” to try to define all that your beautiful soul holds.
As a wise friend told me -You are All of it.💗
“Dear Mr. Vernon,
We accept the fact that we had to sacrifice a whole Saturday in detention for whatever it was we did wrong, but we think you’re crazy to make us write an essay telling you who we think we are. You see us as you want to see us — in the simplest terms and the most convenient definitions. But what we found out is that each one of us is a brain and an athlete, and a basket case, a princess, and a criminal.
Does that answer your question?
Sincerely yours,
The Breakfast Club”
