08/31/2026
5 signs they blamed your reaction so they wouldn't have to face their behavior:
1. They kept focusing on how you reacted instead of what they did that pushed you there.
2. They acted shocked by your frustration after ignoring the same pain when you explained it calmly.
3. They judged the way your hurt came out but never showed real concern for the damage that caused it.
4. They used your reaction to make themselves look like the victim while leaving out what they kept doing to you.
5. They expected you to keep protecting their reputation even after their behavior kept breaking your trust.
Words reposted from: Robert Wilkinson
Observing how someone responds to conversations about their behavior and your feelings shows the level of their emotional intelligence.
Humans can have a default setting in their genetic coding that blocks healthy communication and conflict resolution. The dna becomes triggered and doesn't allow for the energy to flow in a calm, constructive manner.
This is a major sign of unresolved trauma in the dna codes, nervous system disregulation and a lack of communication skills.
When witnessing this behavior in someone, it's so important to not reflect their energy back at them but become a pillar of strength in maintaining the master of your own nervous system and mental/emotional responses.
As humans, we have the choice to not give the avoidant style energy in return because it shows our level of emotional integrity, emotional stamina and balance in the nervous system. Often times, when engaging in this type of energy with strength, it allows the person who's triggered to regulate and meet you in a calm space.
Doesn't always happen, but this is where REAL healing can take place. Because, why would we reject love from someone when it comes to recognizing our behaviors?!?! We are, afterall, each other's mirror and what a BEAUTIFUL experience it is to do the work together to upgrade.....
A relationship is about upgrading together, not driving the wounds deeper. It's all about surrendering the ego to evolve within the ascension process.
We're on the same time, right?! So, let's play together properly.....this should be the foundation for all relationships.