12/02/2023
When I can't sleep, I ask what my body knows.
I lay there and remember: I belong to this creature I live in. I am her safe-keeper.
It's these middle-of-the-night brain tornadoes where I practice the mundane art of belonging to myself in the simplest way. Most of the time, I fall back asleep.
This is not dominion over my body -- my consciousness is not a dictatorship. I don't direct my body beyond her capacity or truth.
I feel the room, listen to the fan whirring. Feel the boundary of my skin and the warmth of my sweetheart beside me. I notice the weight of my body on the bed, feel where skin meets sheet.
What ask myself what it means to be sovereign in body.
Somatic: of the body.
Sovereignty: Absolute rule or authority.
The absolute rule or authority of the body.
But does this mean my body always knows or perceives correctly? No, sadly. Does it mean that my consciousness becomes the ruler of my body's experience? Also no. We are in relationship.
I don't shame or rush my body. I get up. I leave my lover sleeping and the fan whirring. I write.
If you refuse anything in this life, refuse to shame yourself. Refuse to shame your body for being an alive thing that changes, needs, processes and takes time to exist. Her laws are not the laws of men, of "productivity" or even circadian rhythms.
I put my hand over my aching belly and say, "I trust you. I believe you. I'm with you."
Sometimes, the wild wind of sensation I feel is soothing and lulls me back to sleep. Sometimes, like tonight, it's far too fascinating to lull me into anything but wonder.
When tomorrow is hard, or I'm slow because I didn't sleep, despite all I need to do, I will forgive myself easily. I will remember that the night needed me.
I'll put hand over heart and remember that I answered my body's prayer: I got up and wrote. It won't be like this every night. This prayer has been birthing through me all my life, maybe. I have never known how to trust myself life this, and here I am.
Dreaming in black and white. A mother, a child, a lover, a daughter. Mine.