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Welcome to Tondre Therapeutic Coaching + Consulting's newest program: THE ADOPTIVE AND FOSTER PARENT TRAUMA TRANSFORMATION.

Keli Tondre and her team supports adoptive and foster parents who have experienced trauma in their parenting journey.

11/01/2026

Sometimes we see the hardest moments after the big day is already over.

The excitement, the extra stimulation, the changes in routine, and all the little things that come with a holiday can take a lot out of our kids.

And once everything settles down, that exhaustion might show up as irritability, big emotions, or difficulty with things that normally feel manageable.

If today feels a little harder than expected, take a breath. Your child might need some extra connection, a slower pace, and a little more support.

And honestly, you might need that, too. ❤️

10/31/2026

🎃 A little Halloween reminder for adoptive and foster parents!

Tonight might be magical. It might also be a complete disaster. And it might be a little of both!

The costumes, sugar, excitement, crowds, noise, and changes in routine can be a LOT for a trauma-impacted nervous system.

So give yourself permission to adjust your expectations. Leave early. Skip a few houses. Change the plans. Or call it a night before things fall apart.

And if your child does become overwhelmed, remember that your nervous system matters, too. Take a breath. Slow yourself down. You don't have to match their intensity.

The goal isn't a picture-perfect Halloween. It's getting through the evening with as much connection and as little stress as possible.

And if tonight goes completely sideways? Tomorrow is a new day.

Happy Halloween! 🎃

10/24/2026

A little Saturday morning check-in. 🤎

Before the weekend gets busy, take a moment to ask yourself: how am I really doing?

When so much of your energy goes toward supporting your child, navigating hard moments, and trying to figure out what they need, it can be easy to put your own needs on the back burner.

But you deserve support, too.

If family life has felt especially hard lately, you don’t have to wait until things reach a breaking point to reach out for help. Sometimes, having a conversation with someone who understands foster and adoptive family dynamics can be a helpful place to start.

If you’re ready to explore what support could look like for your family, you can book a consultation here:

http://tondretherapeutics.com/application

You don’t have to have all the answers before taking the first step. Wishing you a weekend with a little more breathing room, grace, and connection. 🤎

10/23/2026

As we approach another election, I want to challenge us to think about what it really means to value life. If we believe every life is precious before birth, then surely that same life is precious afterward. That includes the newborn experiencing withdrawal because of prenatal drug exposure, the toddler whose early trauma has left their nervous system constantly on alert, and the teenager whose pain comes out as aggression, defiance, destruction, or behaviors that make them incredibly difficult to parent.

And it includes the adoptive, foster, and biological families who are doing everything they can to love, protect, and care for these children, often at enormous personal cost. These are the very same lives we said were worth protecting.

Yet too often, once these children are born, the support they and their families desperately need is NOWHERE to be found. We celebrate adoption and encourage fostering but often overlook the lifelong impact of trauma. We encourage families to open their homes but leave them struggling to access meaningful support when things become incredibly difficult. Andd when these children grow into teenagers whose trauma makes them harder to care for, harder to parent, and harder for society to understand, are we still just as committed to their lives?

I believe in the sanctity of human life. Deeply. But I also believe our commitment to life cannot end when a baby takes their first breath. Being pro-life should mean caring about what happens to that child at 2, 12, 17, and 35. It should mean caring about the families raising them and advocating for the resources, treatment, and support that make it possible for those lives to flourish, not merely survive.

As we consider our votes, I hope we'll think beyond the moment of birth and ask what we're willing to do for the lives we say we value. If we're willing to fight for a child's right to be born, we ought to be willing to fight just as hard for that child's right to be cared for. Otherwise, we need to ask ourselves whether we're truly pro-life or rather, perhaps, just anti-abortion...?

10/21/2026

When a behavior keeps happening, it can become the thing everyone in the family is focused on.
How do we stop it?
How do we prevent it next time?
What consequence will make a difference?

Those questions can feel especially urgent when the same struggles keep showing up.

But sometimes, in the effort to change what we're seeing, we lose sight of the child experiencing it.

Looking beyond behavior doesn't mean ignoring boundaries or pretending difficult moments don't matter. It means making room to understand what might be contributing to the behavior, what the child may be communicating, and what is happening within the relationship.

We can address what is happening on the surface while remaining curious about what might be underneath it.
That shift doesn't make every hard moment easy. It can, however, change the way we approach the child in front of us.

**Save this as a reminder to stay curious when the behavior feels bigger than everything else.**

10/19/2026

There is a particular kind of guilt that can come with admitting how hard parenting feels when you love your child so much.
You can be committed to your child, invested in your relationship, and grateful to be their parent while also feeling exhausted by the things your family is navigating.

You can understand that behavior has a history behind it and still struggle with how to respond in the moment. You can know that connection matters and still feel disconnected after a difficult day.

None of those things automatically mean you're doing something wrong.
Foster and adoptive parenting can hold a lot of complicated emotions at once. There is room for your love, your frustration, your grief, your hope, and your need for support.

You don't have to pretend the hard parts aren't hard for the love to be real.

10/16/2026

There is so much more to a family’s story than what we see on the surface.

The hard moments, the behaviors that are difficult to understand, the feelings that seem to come out of nowhere, and the reactions we wish we could handle differently are all part of a much bigger picture.

At Tondre Therapeutics, we care about that bigger picture. The child, the parent, the relationship, and the experiences each person brings into it.

Because supporting foster and adoptive families means making room for the complexity of these relationships, not just looking for ways to make the hard moments go away.

This is the heart of the work we do, and we're glad you're here.

10/15/2026

Something new is coming, and I'd love your help shaping it!

I'm excited to introduce Joy|Us: Finding Joy, Peace and Healing. Together.

Joy|Us is a new series of FREE, one-hour workshops created with adoptive, foster and kinship parents in mind.

Because while so much of the support available to adoptive and foster families focuses on the needs of our children, I believe there's a tremendous need to support the parents walking alongside them, too.

These workshops will explore everything from parenting and relationships to chronic stress, emotional well-being, and finding joy again. My hope is to create opportunities for parents to gain practical tools, fresh perspectives, and encouragement as they navigate the complexities of adoption and foster care.

But before I get started, I'd love to hear from YOU!

What topics would be most helpful? What challenges are you navigating? And when would you be most likely to attend?

I've created a very short survey to help shape the upcoming workshops, and I'd be so grateful for a few minutes of your time.

Take the survey here: https://forms.gle/kbH75eHrtq67eVQcA

I'm really looking forward to what we'll explore together!

Joy|Us. Finding Joy, Peace and Healing. Together.

10/10/2026

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, up to 80% of children entering foster care have significant mental health needs. Children who have experienced early adversity, separation, loss, and trauma are at greater risk for anxiety, depression, emotional dysregulation, and other mental health challenges.

But there's another part of this conversation that needs our attention: the mental health of adoptive, foster and kinship parents/caregivers.

When you're raising a child who has experienced significant trauma, you're often navigating challenges that extend well beyond what you anticipated when you began parenting. There may be years of unpredictable behaviors, emotional crises, disrupted relationships, difficult decisions, and constant uncertainty about what comes next.

And over time, those experiences can affect your own mental health. Why? Because chronic stress changes the way our nervous systems function. PArents can find themselves constantly on alert, struggling with anxiety, irritability, exhaustion, emotional disconnection, or a sense that they've lost themselves somewhere along the way. Even when things are relatively calm, their bodies may still be preparing for the next crisis.

So while we *absolutely* need better resources, treatment, and understanding for children who have experienced trauma, we also need to recognize that parents deserve support for their own mental health, not simply more strategies for managing their children's behaviors.

This World Mental Health Day (and every day), let's remember that supporting children also means supporting the parents and caregivers who are raising them.

10/07/2026

When a child’s behavior keeps pushing our buttons, it can be really hard to stay curious.

Especially when you’ve had the same argument ten times, the same situation keeps happening, or you feel like you’ve tried everything.

Sometimes our own nervous system starts responding before we’ve even had a chance to think about what our child might need. We become focused on getting through the moment, keeping things calm, or getting back to some sense of normal.

That doesn’t make you a bad parent. It makes you human.

Learning to notice what happens inside of us in those moments can be just as important as learning to understand what’s happening for our child.

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