10/23/2026
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month.
Our midwives and OBs care for families through loss more often than most people realize: miscarriage, ectopic and chemical pregnancies, embryo loss, stillbirth, neonatal death, SIDS, termination for medical reasons, and losses that don’t fit neatly into any category. Some of us have lived it personally, too. What we’ve learned is that grief has no right shape, no timeline, and no threshold. A loss at six weeks can be as significant as one later on, and no one should have to justify how much it hurts.
Loss in pregnancy is common. That doesn’t make it ordinary for the person going through it.
For everyone else, one small ask: questions like “When are you having kids?” or “Are you trying for another?” can land somewhere tender. You rarely know what someone is carrying, and a little pause before asking is a quiet kindness.
If you’ve experienced a loss, whether it was last week or years ago, you deserve real care: medical, emotional, and practical. We’re sharing resources for families in New York, Connecticut, and Charlotte, along with national organizations. If one helped you and we missed it, please add it in the comments so another family can find it.
