06/01/2026
In honor of Men's Mental Health Month I share this clip as a reminder to coaches that our young men are in desperate need of safe spaces to be vulnerable, accountable, and explore emotions.
Coaches often forget that their and energy and coaching style shapes their athletes. Reflect on your approach and your affect (especially in difficult moments).
Balance your energy — aggression isn’t always the answer.
I will never claim to be perfect or always having poise when I am upset. I used to coach aggressively, believing it was serving my athletes best, preparing them for a tough world, and my athletes got used to that.
When I began to trust them and slowed down, I led with balance and they didn’t know how to respond or responding negatively. I taught them to hear me as a commander and not a caring coach. Although they knew I cared, it wasn't shown in a variety of ways. A calm deamenor to them translated as weakness, and that I did not care.
Coaching is about reflection, balance, and awareness of your own ego.
Your coaching style shapes how youth listen, respond, and grow. It also shapes how you listen, respond, and grow. I had to learn that my athletes deserved a coach who could be fluid in her expressions and her teaching.
Coaches, let me know in the comments: How do you balance firmness and support with your athletes?