PACT (Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training)

PACT (Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training) Consulting, Therapy (individual and couples) and Training
also professional and parent coaching

Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Ed.D., LCSW, LMFT, was the Founder and CEO of Center for Family Connections, Inc. (CFFC, 1995-2012) in Cambridge and New York, Founder and Director of Riverside After Adoption Consulting and Training (AACT, 2012 to 2015), PACT (Pre/Post Adoption Consulting and Training, 1982-present), and Pavao Consulting and Coaching. Dr. Pavao has done extensive training, both nationally

and internationally. She is a lecturer in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and she has consulted to various public and private child welfare agencies, adoption agencies, schools, and community groups, as well as probate and family court judges, lawyers, and clergy. Additionally, she has worked closely with individuals and families touched by adoption, foster care, and other complex blended family constructions. She has developed models for treatment and for training using her systemic, intergenerational, and developmental framework, The Normative Crises in the Development of the Adoptive Family, and her book, The Family of Adoption (Beacon Press), has received high acclaim. Dr. Pavao has received many awards and honors, including the Children’s Bureau/U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Adoption Excellence Award for Family Contribution (2003) and the Congressional Coalition on Adoption award for Angels in Adoption (2000).

09/06/2026

Anne Lamott says:

“Here's my old, yearly Labor Day piece:

I love unions. I love them in the same way I love libraries and redwood groves. They are like churches: sacred. They are what make this country great. So, besides taking my 2-year-old grandson, Jax, to a library or to a park with redwoods almost every day, I have also helped him to get to know a community of union workers. A year ago, I got a huge box of medium-size Lego blocks and figurines, and we have been holding rallies ever since. Power to the People. And while we're at it, Solidarity Forever.
I don't have the time or space to introduce you to each of these union workers, but let me just mention a few.
There's Mavis, a blond Molly Ivins type and the leader of the International Ladies Garment Workers' Union, and Al, a longshoreman. There are two matching zookeepers who are older, and brothers, born to the same green plastic mother (at a hospital where the nurses are proud union members). There is Phil, the sailor, of Seafarers International; Libby, who belongs to the California Federation of Teachers; and her wife, Deirdre, who is a Teamster. Sydney, who dresses like a jungle explorer in a safari jacket and helmet, is a union rep, working on behalf of all workers to keep unions strong.
Everyone loves Sydney: He is one of those exquisitely decent, old-fashioned working-class guys who made this country great. Jax and I often build him a low platform and podium of Lego blocks from which he talks to other workers about the fight for workers' rights, telling them to never give up, and reminding them that the pendulum always swings back toward fairness and equality.
I have taught Jax all the old union songs that my parents taught me — "Joe Hill," "We Shall Not Be Moved," "John Henry," "Bread and Roses." So sometimes as we play, we also sing: "Hearts starve as well as bodies; give us bread, but give us roses."
For good measure, I sometimes play him "La Marseillaise" on the kazoo, and he plays along on a bongo drum.
Why do I do this? Because I believe that if you don't love and support the working men and women of this country, you are in deep trouble. You are going to get a terrible seat in heaven. Probably a patio chair, with plastic lattice bands, the kind that leave fat welts on the back of your thighs when you stand up.
Are you hearing that, politicians? I wasn't going to name names, but I'm still not over being appalled with Arnold Schwarzenegger's attacks on unions. Remember his compulsive trash-talking about nurses and teachers? Nurses and teachers, for God's sake! Could he possibly think that God shares his bad opinion of them? Of course not. It was almost funny to watch him bullying them and their unions. It made me ask myself something I used to wonder constantly about Dick Cheney: Hasn't this guy ever heard the word "karma"?
I guess it is a plank of the Christian right to be anti-union now. But remember, there are still a lot of us in the Christian left, and we don't feel that way. When I was growing up, everyone I knew was pro-union, just like everyone used public libraries and everyone in California was proud of the public education system and loved the state's natural beauty. People would fight and rally and protest and donate to help preserve it.
Then Ronald Reagan came along, and having seen one redwood, he had seen them all, and it was pretty much a straight line from there to Arnold's shaking his mighty broom at us as he trash-talked the nurses and teachers.
I understand why politicians want to see labor as the cause of most of our societal and economic problems. It takes the focus off the banks, the corporations, the military-industrial complex. But public school teachers? I guess they really are sort of greedy and grabby — not to mention rich. Especially those greedy-grabby public school special ed teachers. My younger brother is one of them, and boy, is he raking it in. Talk about take, take, take.
My grandson and I just about went crazy watching the unions protest in Wisconsin in the spring. "Those are our people!" I shouted to the television, although neither of us actually has a job. He joined the chorus, in his native Latvian. We clapped, and ate Cheetos, and danced and put all the workers together on the green Lego base plate. Our pride was contagious: My two union dogs milled around, licking us enthusiastically and levitating Cheetos right out of the baby's fists.
The whole world will be bombarding my grandson with messages about individual and personal success aimed at teaching him to love the almighty buck, but I want my grandchild to grow up in a family that loves labor, as I did. And I want him to know that when workers' rights or libraries or redwood groves are threatened, it's incumbent on us to show up with our kazoos and bongos.
Otherwise, I tell him, this country is doomed. And then I add, "But not on our watch, right, dude?" and he claps and cheers.”

09/05/2026
See you in Indianapolis in April forBack to NAAP!A Statement from the National Association of Adoptees and Parents (NAAP...
09/03/2026

See you in Indianapolis in April for
Back to NAAP!

A Statement from the National Association of Adoptees and Parents (NAAP) Board of Directors

September 3, 2026

The Untangling Our Roots Summit was born from a beautiful vision — that adoptees, NPEs, donor-conceived people, and all those whose lives have been shaped by family complexity share something profound: the search for identity, truth, and connection. Leslie Mackinnon, LCSW, brought that vision to life and brought our organizations together to serve it. We are grateful for every conference, every speaker, and every person who trusted us with their story.

Today we are sharing something difficult. After four years of co-creating and co-hosting the Untangling Our Roots Summit alongside Right To Know, NAAP is withdrawing from the UTOR partnership. NAAP will no longer be part of the Untangling Our Roots Summit. What was built together, as we knew it, has come to an end for NAAP.

This was not a decision we made quickly or lightly. When the path forward became unclear, we chose to stay committed to the values and roots that seeded this organization.

To every person who attended UTOR, who spoke, who volunteered, who shared their story — Thank you! We want you to know how much we appreciate you and what you brought to this gathering. The connections formed across our communities are real and they belong to you. The friendships between adoptees, NPEs, donor-conceived people, and all those navigating questions of identity and family — those are yours to keep. You will always be welcome here. NAAP’s door is open to everyone whose life has been shaped by adoption, assisted reproduction, donor conception, or unexpected DNA discoveries.

NAAP is an accountable organization committed to keeping adoptee voices at the center in everything we do and in every partnership we pursue. We advocate for equity, for transparency, and for the principle that adoptees, birth parents and first families — however you name that experience — deserve to be seen and served by an organization dedicated to them. We know that each person names their own experience and we respect that. You are seen here. You belong here.

NAAP has been gathering this community together since 2017 — full multi-day national conferences, regional retreats, and six years of free weekly programming that began when COVID cancelled our 2020 conference and we launched Adoption Happy Hour rather than go dark. Conference building and community gathering is in our DNA.

Our free monthly programs continue. Our legislative advocacy continues. And in April 2027, NAAP will host its National Conference in Indianapolis — Rooted. Reaching. Rising. — built by the organization that has always put the adoption constellation at the center.

To Leslie Mackinnon — your vision brought real healing to real people. We carry it with us.

Building Unity in Our Community is not just our tagline. It is our promise. And we will continue to honor that promise — with integrity, transparency, and accountability.

With love and unwavering commitment,

Jennifer Fahlsing, Co-Founder & President
Beth Steury, Treasurer
Lori Wagner Knisely, Secretary
Barbara Robertson, Board Member
Ann Mire Mikeska, Board Member
Alicia Williams@, Board Member
Patricia Ann Knight Meyer, Board Member

National Association of Adoptees & Parents (NAAP)
www.naapunited.org
Building Unity in Our Community

Also signed by NAAP’s Senior Advisors:

Marcie Keithley, Co-Founder & Past President, NAAP

Leslie Mackinnon, LCSW — Birth Parent Advocate, Therapist, and Founding Visionary of Untangling Our Roots

Dr. Joyce Maguire Pavao, Ed.D., LCSW, LMFT — Pioneering Family Therapist, Lecturer in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Founder of the Center for Family Connections, Author of The Family of Adoption, Congressional Angels in Adoption Award Recipient, and Adult Adoptee

The National Association of Adoptees and Parents (NAAP) is a 501c3 educational organization that is dedicated to enhancing the lives of adoptees by unifying and elevating the voice of all adoptees regardless of where they are in their adoption journey.

rabbit rabbit
09/01/2026

rabbit rabbit

Back in my day, there was a full year for birthparents to ‘decide’ about placing a child.  Exactly one year after I was ...
08/30/2026

Back in my day, there was a full
year for birthparents to ‘decide’
about placing a child.
Exactly one year after I was placed
(One year and ten days after I was born),
I became legally adopted.
Born on August 20, 1946.
Legally adopted on August 30, 1947. Birthparents had to come to the office
to sign the ‘termination of parental rights’ at that time.
I have all of those documents.
I always thought end of summer was melancholy, because I had to leave
the Cape, and go back to school,
but maybe it had something to do
with this very intense rite of passage?

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