Dr. Craig Malkin

05/11/2026

Happy Mother's Day part two I prefer the dill on this one ;-)

05/10/2026

Happy Mother's Day!
Seared cod over creamy mashed potatoes, mixed vegetables with a white wine and broth reduction, garnish with dill.

Bon appétit!

05/01/2026

There's a hilarious prompt going around where people ask AI: "write an unhinged bio about me."

Here's mine from Chat:

Dr. Craig Malkin is a clinical psychologist who accidentally specialized in narcissism and then couldn’t stop seeing it everywhere, including in himself, which was inconvenient.
He wrote a whole book about it (Rethinking Narcissism) and then immediately had to live with the consequences of people quoting it back to him at dinner parties. He also coined “echoism,” which sounds fake but unfortunately is not, and mostly describes the people who end up listening to everyone else’s problems while slowly evaporating.
He runs a lot. No one knows exactly why. The current theory is that it’s either for cardiovascular health or to outrun the moment in sessions when he says, “Can we slow that down?” and everyone realizes they’ve been emotionally sprinting for 30 years.
In conversation, he will nod thoughtfully, say something like “mm,” and then gently ruin your entire coping strategy with one sentence. Not on purpose. Just… structurally.
He believes in vulnerability, but the annoying kind that actually requires you to feel something instead of explain it. He will absolutely sit with you in that moment. He will also absolutely not rescue you from it, which feels like a design flaw until it isn’t.
He has strong feelings about attachment theory, weak tolerance for the word “very,” and a complicated, ongoing feud with at least three pieces of household technology.
He did not set out to become a “voice” on anything.
He just kept noticing patterns and now it’s too late.
If you meet him, you’ll probably feel seen.
If you really meet him, you might wish you hadn’t.

04/26/2026

“It takes an emotion to change an emotion.”--
Les Greenberg

Insight can help us name the pattern. But often, something deeper shifts only when a new emotional experience meets the old one: safety where there was fear, tenderness where there was shame, anger where there was helplessness, grief where there was numbness.

Have you ever felt this difference between understanding something and finally feeling it change?

04/22/2026

Colleague of mine did this research
 so important to recognize the variations and wide diversity--and not get stuck in stereotypes!

Not every narcissist is a Patrick Bateman waiting in the wings

03/29/2026

For years, people have asked when I’d finally create a course on echoism.

I understood the request: although the idea clearly resonates with many people, there still isn’t a course devoted to echoism, especially one taught by the person who first introduced and researched the concept.

So after a long time thinking about how to make it genuinely useful, I finally built one.

This course explores where echoism comes from, how it quietly shapes relationships and self-worth, and what actually helps people begin to take up more space without feeling selfish for doing it.

If people are interested, I’ll put the course link in the comments tonight.

For now, I’m curious: what part of echoism do you wish more people understood?

03/23/2026

Presenting on narcissism comes with one small irony: trying to post about it without sounding narcissistic 🙂
Grateful for a rich conversation with Ramani Durvasula and Livia Kent, chief editor at Psychotherapy Networker, for engaged colleagues, and for family who kindly pretended they hadn’t already heard some version of this at dinner. Thank you, Dr. Ramani and Psychotherapy Networker !

01/25/2026

01/17/2026

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12/14/2025

Hanukkah is a reminder that light doesn’t have to be blinding to be powerful.
One candle, one night at a time—steadfast, relational, and real.
Wishing a peaceful Hanukkah to those who celebrate. 🕎