07/14/2023
Extreme pain instills a fear of death within you.
And therefore, it transforms you. (If you allow it to.)
That includes any kind of pain. We want to avoid it at all cost in this life but the fact of the matter is: we can't.
Pain is a part of life. And we are going to experience it. There's no escaping it.
The best thing we can do with it is allow it to transform us.
No matter what kind of pain it is.
Physical pain.
Emotional pain.
Mental pain.
Spiritual pain.
Relational pain.
Marital pain.
All lead you to a very dark night of the soul.
Where the fear of death of some kind, gut-punches you. At least temporarily.
The death of your physical body.
The death of a loved one.
The death of your health as you knew it.
The death of your life as you knew it.
The death of your mind.
The death of a religious practice.
The death of the old version of you.
The death of a relationship.
The death of a marriage.
The fear takes over and the mind and body are a slave to that fear until you come out of it.
How do you come out of it?
You pray.
You ask for help.
You receive help.
You cry.
You rest.
You meditate.
You practice self hypnosis.
You rest some more.
You cry some more.
You learn some new skills, tools, and modalities to implement that will help you.
You hire an expert to help you.
You journal.
You make sense of it all.
You ask yourself the question of: "how is this serving me and what am I learning from this?" (You WILL be able to come up with several ways, I promise you.)
You practice patience with yourself and the people around you. (Because these time periods are hard for everyone going through it with you, and you will all struggle with nervous system dysregulation more than usual during these time periods of pain.)
You tell yourself that you are powerful and that you love yourself on repeat - through the tears whenever the fear comes up for you - allowing yourself to FEEL everything, let it move through you, and at the same time remind yourself that you are safe, you're going to figure this out, and that this too shall pass. (Because it always passes.)
And once it passes, you unpack it, and you learn all of the lessons to carry fourth with you into the rest of your lifetime as knowledge and wisdom that nobody can take away from you.
Your pain is a gift in the end. And it is an inescapable one.
Allow it to change you for the better.
Allow it to serve you.
Allow it to teach you.
Allow it to make you the next best version of yourself.
And allow it to teach you how to love yourself and the ones you love even better.
Allow the transformation. Because it's why you're here after all.
