06/03/2026
Telling yourself not to compare is like telling yourself not to think about ice cream. You immediately think about ice cream.
Suppression doesn’t turn the thought off. It turns the volume up.
What actually helps isn’t more willpower. It’s a replacement for the moment the thought shows up. The one I come back to with clients: “I know my hard. I don’t know her hard.”
You have full access to your own experience. You have zero access to hers.
https://www.megangiroux.com/blog/why-just-dont-do-it-rarely-helps-women-stop-the-comparison-game