Tell Me About Your Mother

05/27/2026

Not everyone who got licensed belongs in the room.
Melissa Martin, EMDR therapist and founder of EMDR Therapy Works, says what most of us already know but won’t say out loud.
Training gets you the degree. It doesn’t give you what you actually need.
Full episode — link in bio.

05/20/2026

Therapy can be harmful or healing. This can be dependent on the Therapists’ capacity to self reflect and seek proper supervision.

05/07/2026

My co-host Melissa Martin, EMDR therapist and founder of EMDR Therapy Works, ran a live focusing session on me mid-episode.
What started as anger about a financial situation went somewhere neither of us expected — grief, attachment, and a nervous system that knows it’s safe but can’t feel it yet.
This is the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model in real time. No script. No setup. Just what actually happens when the body holds more than the mind can say.
Full episode link in bio — Episode 59 | Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn’t Be in the Room.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6xgoxI4Mp0d50NsWXNdMjc?si=AjpMn4MUSke7e2vc2SxnGA

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tell-me-about-your-mother/id1593441270?i=1000764178206

04/30/2026

Therapists also need therapy?!

04/28/2026

Episode 59 | Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn't Be in the Room
We started with Evan's accountant and ended up at grief. That's focusing. That's also just therapy.
Melissa demos the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model live — Evan's first focusing session surfaces chest tension, a half-open door, and the one person who ever made him feel completely safe. It gets real fast.
Then we get into the field. A TikTok comment thread about s*x offender treatment, new grads getting thrown into situations they were never prepared for, and a woman who got fired from a jail job for being afraid when someone came after her.
The question underneath all of it: does everyone who got licensed actually belong in that room?
We don't think so. We said it.

New episode is live now.

Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn't Be in the Room | Episode 59

04/26/2026

A conversation about virtue signaling, white saviorism, and the gap between intention and impact. Sometimes what looks compassionate on the surface is really more about how the helper wants to feel than what people actually need.

04/21/2026

Rhiana Holmes Turner talks about working with s*x offenders and how the reality of treatment is often more complicated than people want to admit. Many of these clients had already gone through probation, polygraphs and unusually invasive therapy and many said it changed them for the better.

04/15/2026

Evan and Rhiana talk about therapist burnout, money, private practice, ADHD, recovery, and the pressure to constantly overwork in the name of helping others. It’s an honest conversation about mental health culture, performative sacrifice, and what it means to build a sustainable life without losing yourself in the process.

Evan sits down with Rhiana Holmes Turner for a sharp, honest conversation about therapist burnout, private practice, money, ADHD, recovery, and the culture o...

04/15/2026

Do you ever feel so certain about something you’re convinced everyone else is an idiot? Take a breath, reflect, and see if there’s any possible way to find common ground. If that doesn’t work, wear a party hat!

02/25/2026

From free to inmate. Human to animal. There’s not many other abrupt identity shifts that are comparable.