Tell Me About Your Mother

10/01/2026

Why devaluing someone after they exclude you can feel protective and why it doesn’t make the rejection go away.

08/18/2026

“If we’re not married, it’ll be less conflict.” Virginia Gilbert breaks down why that’s often backwards — divorce means you now have to agree on everything about your kids, without the built-in partnership.

08/12/2026

News flash: Chances are your ex probably wasn’t a “narcissist.” Virginia Gilbert, LMFT, challenges clients to get away from mislabeling and self-reflect.

08/11/2026

It’s the conflict that hurts the kids, not who packed the best lunch.

Divorced parents dump money into family court chasing a resolution it was never built to give- meanwhile the thing that actually damages kids isn’t the divorce itself, it’s ongoing exposure to conflict.

Virginia Gilbert on why co-parenting therapy does what family court can’t.

08/11/2026

Why is everyone's ex a narcissist now?

This week Virginia Gilbert (high-conflict divorce specialist) joins the show to talk about what actually drives high-conflict divorce, why family court tends to make things worse instead of better, and why the goal in conflict usually isn't understanding — it's agreement, and those aren't the same thing.

New episode live now.

Why is everyone's ex a narcissist now?Virginia Gilbert has spent ...

05/27/2026

Not everyone who got licensed belongs in the room.
Melissa Martin, EMDR therapist and founder of EMDR Therapy Works, says what most of us already know but won’t say out loud.
Training gets you the degree. It doesn’t give you what you actually need.
Full episode — link in bio.

05/20/2026

Therapy can be harmful or healing. This can be dependent on the Therapists’ capacity to self reflect and seek proper supervision.

05/07/2026

My co-host Melissa Martin, EMDR therapist and founder of EMDR Therapy Works, ran a live focusing session on me mid-episode.
What started as anger about a financial situation went somewhere neither of us expected — grief, attachment, and a nervous system that knows it’s safe but can’t feel it yet.
This is the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model in real time. No script. No setup. Just what actually happens when the body holds more than the mind can say.
Full episode link in bio — Episode 59 | Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn’t Be in the Room.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6xgoxI4Mp0d50NsWXNdMjc?si=AjpMn4MUSke7e2vc2SxnGA

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04/30/2026

Therapists also need therapy?!

04/28/2026

Episode 59 | Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn't Be in the Room
We started with Evan's accountant and ended up at grief. That's focusing. That's also just therapy.
Melissa demos the Felt Sense Polyvagal Model live — Evan's first focusing session surfaces chest tension, a half-open door, and the one person who ever made him feel completely safe. It gets real fast.
Then we get into the field. A TikTok comment thread about s*x offender treatment, new grads getting thrown into situations they were never prepared for, and a woman who got fired from a jail job for being afraid when someone came after her.
The question underneath all of it: does everyone who got licensed actually belong in that room?
We don't think so. We said it.

New episode is live now.

Rage, Grief, and the Therapists Who Shouldn't Be in the Room | Episode 59