Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC

Carrie Heinze-Musgrove, MA, LCPC Therapy for people who are exceptional at everything except their feelings. Smart enough to see it. Virtual. Private. carrienow.com

Stuck enough to know something has to change.

💌Weekly sessions and 3,6 & 9 hour intensives.

Somewhere between golden hour and heat stroke. ☀️🔥🥵
09/02/2026

Somewhere between golden hour and heat stroke. ☀️🔥🥵

“You’re out of my league” can sound flattering.Sometimes it is.But sometimes it’s also information.It can be someone tel...
08/31/2026

“You’re out of my league” can sound flattering.

Sometimes it is.

But sometimes it’s also information.

It can be someone telling you, very early on, that they don’t fully believe they deserve what they have.

And if you’re someone who tends to love by reassuring, helping, fixing or seeing someone’s potential, you may quietly take on the job of proving them wrong.

Love them enough.
Reassure them enough.
Stay long enough.

Until their self-worth starts to feel like your responsibility.

That’s the pattern I unpack in my newest article:

“You’re Out of My League” Isn’t a Compliment. It’s a Confession.

Read it here:
https://carrienow.com/youre-out-of-my-league-isnt-a-compliment-its-a-confession/

Gratitude is lovely.But somewhere along the way, it became a way to talk people out of their own feelings.You have a goo...
08/28/2026

Gratitude is lovely.

But somewhere along the way, it became a way to talk people out of their own feelings.

You have a good job.
A roof over your head.
People who love you.
Things you know you’re lucky to have.

And you can still feel sad. Lonely. Stuck. Empty. Overwhelmed.

Someone else having a “better reason” to be hurting does not make your pain less real.

You do not have to earn the right to feel what you feel.

You can be deeply grateful for your life and still recognize that something in it needs to change.

If you’ve been life coaching, gratitude journaling, white-knuckling, reframing, and reminding yourself how lucky you are… and you still feel the same, maybe the feeling isn’t the problem.

Maybe it’s trying to tell you something.

Taking “showing up” a little literally. Still me. Just stepping out of the feed now.
08/28/2026

Taking “showing up” a little literally.

Still me. Just stepping out of the feed now.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t figuring out what’s happening.It’s accepting what the answer may require from you.That ...
08/22/2026

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t figuring out what’s happening.

It’s accepting what the answer may require from you.

That might mean disappointing someone. Letting go of the version of a relationship you hoped would happen. Accepting that another explanation probably won’t change the outcome. Making a decision before everyone agrees with you.

So we keep analyzing. Replaying. Asking one more person. Looking for one more piece of information.

And sometimes that really is useful.

But sometimes confusion is doing something for us.

It buys time.

It lets us stay in the question a little longer so we don’t have to face what the answer might cost.

The question I come back to is:

What would I have to face if I stopped looking for a different answer?

Because sometimes you’re not waiting for clarity.

You’re waiting for the answer to hurt less.

And that’s the part no amount of overthinking can solve.

Somewhere between overthinking everything and deciding it’ll probably be fine. 😂
08/14/2026

Somewhere between overthinking everything and deciding it’ll probably be fine. 😂

You can understand your patterns and still feel completely stuck in them.That’s the part people get frustrated with.You ...
08/14/2026

You can understand your patterns and still feel completely stuck in them.

That’s the part people get frustrated with.

You know you overthink.

You know you people-please.

You know you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship.

You know the boundary you should set.

You know what you probably need to do.

And then the actual moment comes and suddenly all that insight feels very far away.

Because changing a pattern usually means tolerating something you’ve spent years trying to avoid.

Guilt.

Disappointment.

Uncertainty.

Conflict.

Someone being upset with you.

Someone misunderstanding you.

That’s why insight matters, but it isn’t always enough.

The change starts when you can recognize the pattern and do something different anyway.

Even when it feels uncomfortable.

That’s the work.

A little iced tea between sessions and a thought I come back to often:You can understand exactly why you keep repeating ...
08/10/2026

A little iced tea between sessions and a thought I come back to often:

You can understand exactly why you keep repeating a pattern and still struggle to change it.

That doesn’t mean you haven’t worked hard enough. It usually means the insight hasn’t become something you can access in the moment the pattern takes over.

That’s where the deeper work begins. Learning to pause, tolerate what comes up, and make a different choice while it’s actually happening.

Understanding your patterns matters. Changing what happens next matters more.

Turns out I occasionally leave the therapy chair.
08/09/2026

Turns out I occasionally leave the therapy chair.

Somewhere between where I’ve been and where I’m meant to be. ✈️☀️
08/06/2026

Somewhere between where I’ve been and where I’m meant to be. ✈️☀️

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