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05/23/2026

05/22/2026

What irritates us in others often says less about them and more about the parts of ourselves we have not yet sat beside long enough to understand. Sometimes judgment is a defense against recognition. Sometimes the qualities we reject most fiercely are the very ones we were taught were unacceptable in ourselves. Jung was pointing toward something uncomfortable and very human…that self-awareness is rarely born from perfection. More often, it emerges through friction, projection, envy, defensiveness, and the moments that unexpectedly stir us. The people who irritate us can become mirrors… if we are willing to look carefully enough. So as the saying goes… “What Suzie says of Sally says more of Suzie than of Sally”.

05/19/2026

Becoming who you truly are sounds beautiful in theory.
But Jung knew it is rarely graceful.

It often means grieving the versions of yourself built for survival.
The self that stayed quiet to be loved.
The self that performed strength while secretly drowning.
The self shaped by family wounds, expectations, fear, shame, or the desperate need to belong.

Individuation is not self-improvement.
It is self-reclamation.

And the deeper truth?
Many people will celebrate your healing only until it disrupts the role they needed you to play.

To become yourself is to risk disappointing others.
To stop abandoning yourself.
To face the unconscious honestly enough that your life no longer becomes directed by old injuries pretending to be destiny.

That is the privilege.
And the cost.

05/19/2026

We spend so much time trying to outrun pain.
We distract. We intellectualize. We stay busy. We convince ourselves we’re “over it.”

But what is ungrieved does not disappear.
It changes form.

It shows up in the body as tension.
In relationships as conflict.
In the mind as anxiety, numbness, or exhaustion that makes no obvious sense.

I think this is one of the deepest truths existential therapy offers us: suffering is not always asking to be eliminated. Sometimes it is asking to be witnessed. Felt. Spoken. Carried differently.

The door we keep trying to shut often becomes the very thing knocking from inside us.

Healing is not the absence of pain.
It is developing the courage to turn toward it without abandoning ourselves.

Thank you, Dr. Yalom for your continued wisdom and compassionate inquiry. 🙏🏽

05/14/2026

As a humanistic psychologist, I believe it is both an ethical obligation and a human responsibility to speak against practices that inflict fear, dehumanization, and psychological harm upon individuals, children, and families. The principle of “do no harm” cannot exist only within the therapy room. It must also extend into the ways we respond to suffering in the world around us.

Nobody is illegal on stolen land.

No person becomes less human because of where they were born, the language they speak, or the borders they crossed in search of safety, survival, or dignity. We cannot claim to value mental health while remaining silent in the face of trauma, family separation, chronic fear, and the erosion of basic human compassion.

Psychology, at its core, calls us toward empathy, relationship, dignity, and care for the vulnerable. I believe our work is not only to treat wounds after they occur, but also to acknowledge and challenge the conditions that create them.

Human beings deserve to be met with humanity. Always.

05/10/2026

Mother’s Day can be a beautiful day.
And for many, it can also be a heartbreaking one.

Today, we hold space for the mothers carrying children in their arms… and the mothers carrying children in their hearts. We remember the mothers whose love continues beyond death, beyond silence, beyond what the world can often see or understand.

To be a bereaved mother is to live with a love that has nowhere physical to land, yet never stops existing. Grief does not erase motherhood. If anything, it often deepens the sacredness of that bond. A child’s death does not end the relationship between mother and child. Love continues in memory, in ritual, in longing, in identity, and in the quiet ways a mother still mothers every single day. This is something death cannot take away.

Mother’s Day can stir many emotions at once: love, rage, gratitude, guilt, tenderness, numbness, yearning, loneliness. There is no right way to move through today. There is only your way. And that deserves compassion.

At VM Psychological PLLC, we want bereaved mothers to know this: your grief is not too much. Your child matters. Your motherhood matters. And your continued bond with your child deserves acknowledgment, dignity, and care.

I remember with you.
Simply… we miss them.

Whether today feels unbearable, gentle, complicated, or unexpectedly quiet, may you move through it slowly and without pressure to perform healing for others. May you be met with softness. May your child’s name be spoken. May love find you in unexpected places.

Wishing all mothers, especially bereaved mothers, a gentle day filled with compassion and space to simply be.

— VM

05/06/2026

At times, life can begin to feel unbearably heavy. You may find yourself moving through the days feeling disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed by anxiety, carrying grief that others cannot fully see, or repeating patterns that leave you feeling stuck, confused, or emotionally exhausted. Often, people believe they must carry these struggles alone or wait until things become “bad enough” before reaching out. You do not have to suffer in silence to deserve support.

At VM Psychological PLLC, therapy is approached not as a place of judgment or quick fixes, but as a compassionate space to slow down, breathe, and begin listening more deeply to yourself. Healing often begins when we feel genuinely seen. Together, we can explore the emotional wounds, relational patterns, losses, fears, and questions that may be shaping your inner world while working toward a life that feels more authentic, grounded, and emotionally meaningful.

Vincent Mangiapane (Vinnie) is a Limited Licensed Psychologist and fifth-year doctoral student in Clinical Psychology at the Michigan School of Psychology. He has experience across inpatient care, community mental health, university counseling settings, and private practice. In addition to his clinical work, Vinnie is actively involved in research related to cultural responsibility in mental health care, traumatic grief, and depathologizing grief.

Vinnie works primarily with adults and specializes in grief and traumatic loss, trauma and complex trauma, ADHD, identity exploration, depth-oriented psychotherapy, palliative psychology, and end-of-life concerns. His therapeutic approach is deeply relational and individualized, rooted in compassion, insight, and the belief that each person carries wisdom about their own life and healing.

Therapy is not about becoming someone else. Sometimes, it is about returning to the parts of yourself that have been buried beneath survival, pain, expectation, or loss.

If you are longing for a space where you can speak honestly, feel emotionally held, and begin making sense of your experience with compassion rather than shame, I would be honored to connect with you.

For a free phone consultation, please call 586-453-7571.
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04/25/2026

04/24/2026

Vinnie’s poem of 4/23/26:

Grief asks to be known
by a language that does not exist.

I reach for words
the way trembling hands reach for light
in a room that has gone dark.
I say loss.
I say heartbreak.
I say longing.
But each word returns too small,
too polished,
too clean
for what has happened here.

How do I explain
that silence can scream?
That a chair at the table
can become a wound?
That mornings can feel offensive
for daring to arrive again?

I want others to understand.
God, I want them to understand.
Not to fix it,
not to wrap it in silver sayings,
not to rush me toward some tidy horizon
called healing.
I only want them
to stand near the fire
and admit it burns.

But grief is an ocean carried
in the pocket of the body.
Invisible until one small thing
breaks open the tide.
A song in a grocery store.
A scent in the hallway.
A date on the calendar
with teeth.

So I stop trying
to translate thunder
into whispers.

If you love me,
sit beside the unsayable.
Let my tears speak
their ancient dialect.
Let the ache be holy
without needing a definition.

There are no perfect words.
There is only this:
I miss them.
I miss them.
I miss them.

And somehow,
that is the whole language.

04/24/2026

What if the symptom was never the enemy?

What if anxiety, depression, rage, numbness, panic, compulsive striving, people pleasing, shutdown, perfectionism, or grief were not simply defects to be erased, but messages shaped in the language of survival?

Psychoanalytic thought has long invited us to look beneath the surface. Symptoms often emerge where words once could not. They can carry the weight of unspoken pain, unresolved loss, buried conflict, attachment wounds, shame, fear, and truths the psyche had to conceal in order to keep going.

The child who learned that love was unpredictable may become the adult who anxiously scans every room for rejection. The person who was punished for having needs may become the one who never asks for help. The mind that endured chaos may cling to control. The heart that was wounded may go numb to avoid being broken again.

What appears irrational on the surface often has a history. What seems self sabotaging often began as self protection.

This does not mean suffering should be romanticized. Pain is real. Distress is real. Panic, compulsions, depression, trauma responses, and relational pain deserve care and relief. But healing is often deeper than symptom reduction alone. Sometimes the work is not simply to silence the symptom, but to understand the story it carries.

Many people spend years attacking themselves for the very adaptations that once helped them survive.

There is compassion in realizing that what troubles you may also have protected you.

And there is profound freedom in discovering that once the truth is spoken, felt, and held with care, it no longer has to speak only through suffering.