10/10/2026
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. 🕊️
October holds space for so many stories that are rarely talked about out loud. The babies we never got to bring home. The pregnancies that ended too soon. The little ones whose time with us was far too short. The children we have had to say goodbye to. The hopes, dreams, and futures we imagined that suddenly looked different than we ever expected.
Today, I want to acknowledge all forms of loss. Miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, infant loss, child loss, and every other loss that comes with loving someone you didn’t get nearly enough time with. No loss is too early, too small, or too complicated to deserve to be remembered. No grief needs to be justified to be valid.
As a doula, I spend so much of my time supporting families through some of the most beautiful, life-changing moments of their lives. But I also know that pregnancy, birth, and parenthood don’t always follow the stories we imagined. And as someone who has experienced pregnancy loss myself, I know that this pain isn’t something you can fully understand until you’ve lived it.
I know what it’s like to carry grief that other people may not see. To wonder what life would have looked like. To hold love for a baby the world may never have gotten to know. To keep going even when a part of your heart feels like it will never be the same.
And I know how lonely it can feel.
So, if you’ve experienced loss, I need you to know this: you are not alone. Not in your grief. Not in the questions you still have. Not in the moments when the pain unexpectedly comes rushing back. Not on due dates, anniversaries, holidays, or the days when everyone else seems to have forgotten.
You are allowed to grieve for as long as you need. You are allowed to talk about your baby. You are allowed to celebrate the children you have while still mourning the ones you lost. You are allowed to feel joy and heartbreak in the very same breath. You don’t have to be strong every day, and you never have to pretend that your loss didn’t change you.
Your baby mattered. Your child matters. Your story matters. And the love you carry will always have a place in this world.
If you are walking through loss right now, or if you are carrying a loss that happened years ago, please know that you are seen, you are loved, and you do not have to walk through it alone. You deserve compassion, support, and a safe space to feel every single emotion that comes with this kind of heartbreak.
And if no one has told you lately, I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. I’m sorry for the dreams that changed, the milestones you didn’t get to experience, and the moments that should have been filled with joy but instead held so much pain.
From my heart to yours, I remember with you. I grieve with you. And I hold space for you. 🤍
— Sweet Pea Doula Services
