04/25/2026
Most of us were never taught *how* to ask for what we need — clearly, confidently, and in a way that the other person can actually receive.
That's exactly what the DBT skill DEAR MAN is for.
It's a simple framework:
✅ Get on the same page about the facts
✅ Share your feelings without blame
✅ Make a clear, specific ask
✅ Show the other person what they gain by saying yes
✅ Stay focused, stay confident, and be ready to negotiate
This week on the DBT Works blog we break down DEAR MAN, step-by-step.
https://www.dbtworks.com/blog/how-to-get-what-you-want-from-other-people-according-to-dbt