10/15/2026
Today, I wear purple in support of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and in solidarity with survivors, those currently experiencing abuse, and those who have lost their lives to domestic violence. 💜
You may notice that in my picture, I am holding up four fingers. But did you know that this hand gesture is part of a silent signal for help?
✋ A Little Background: The Signal for Help
The Signal for Help was introduced by the Canadian Women’s Foundation in 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic, when many individuals experiencing domestic violence were isolated at home with their abusers.
The gesture involves raising your hand with your palm facing outward, tucking your thumb into your palm, and then closing your four fingers over your thumb.
Although it was originally developed in response to concerns about domestic violence, the signal has since become recognized more broadly as a way for someone to discreetly communicate that they may feel unsafe or need assistance.
You can look up a video of the actual signal for help by searching “Signal for help video demonstration” on google. (Please note that my picture just shows one step of the actual signal for help). 😊
💜 What Should You Do If Someone Uses This Signal?
First, take it seriously. A person may be communicating something they cannot safely express out loud.
- Remain calm. Avoid drawing attention to the gesture or confronting the person who may be causing harm.
- Check in privately and safely. If possible, ask questions such as, “Are you safe?” or “How can I support you?” Be mindful that their phone or conversations may be monitored.
- Listen without judgment. Avoid pressuring the individual to explain their situation or make immediate decisions.
-Respect their choices. Offer support and resources while recognizing that leaving an abusive relationship can involve significant safety risks.
-Seek appropriate assistance. If someone is in immediate danger, contact emergency services. Otherwise, help them connect with trained domestic violence advocates when it is safe to do so.
Remember, holding up four fingers alone does not necessarily indicate a request for help. The complete gesture involves closing the fingers over the tucked thumb.
💜 Domestic violence does not discriminate. It can affect individuals of any gender, age, background, or socioeconomic status. Abuse is not always physical. It can also involve emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse, as well as coercive control.
As we recognize Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I encourage us to do more than wear purple. Learn the warning signs, listen without judgment, and become familiar with resources that may help someone experiencing abuse.
Sometimes, a person may not be able to ask for help with words. Recognizing a silent signal and responding safely could make a meaningful difference.
📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Text START to 88788
🌐 thehotline.org
If you are experiencing abuse, you deserve safety, dignity, and support.
🎶 Made It Out 💜
For those who made it out, may you continue to find healing and peace. For those still experiencing abuse, may you know that support is available and that your story matters. And for those whose lives were taken by domestic violence, may their stories remind us why awareness, prevention, and action matters.
With KARE,
Keanu 🫶