06/08/2026
Some adult children feel guilty because they do not miss their parents the way society says they should.
But sometimes the distance did not begin in adulthood.
It began in childhood.
It began when you needed comfort and nobody noticed.
When you needed protection and nobody came.
When you needed softness and received criticism.
When you needed emotional safety and learned to survive alone.
So when you grow up and feel disconnected from them, it does not always mean you are cold, bitter, or ungrateful.
Sometimes it means your body remembers what your heart is still trying to explain.
You cannot feel close to someone who repeatedly made you feel emotionally alone.
You cannot force attachment where safety was missing.
You cannot manufacture warmth from a relationship that taught you to shrink, silence yourself, or expect disappointment.
And sometimes the grief comes from realizing that what you wanted was simple.
To be listened to.
To be protected.
To be chosen.
To be loved without feeling like you had to earn it.
Healing begins when you stop shaming yourself for grieving what you never received.
If this resonates, I Didn’t Choose to Be Born explores childhood trauma, emotional neglect, dysfunctional family dynamics, the mother wound, the father wound, and healing the parts of you that grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or emotionally abandoned.
And Chasing Love That Hurts explores how those early wounds can later show up as limerence, anxious attachment, emotional fixation, and chasing emotionally unavailable people.
Both books are available through the link in bio.
