06/02/2026
In the garage of our house, I had found myself... out of patience... and yelling.
In a cycle of my child not listening until I got angry.
Repeat nicely.
Repeat nicely.
Repeat nicely.
Explode.
So many of us wonder "how did I end up here?".
Even with the best intentions, it still happens.
Somewhere along the line, your child learned to tune you out until you lay down the hammer.
The truth is... after one or two times that your kids experience a heightened response from you, their threshold for the intensity increases.
Meaning they will tolerate more stimulation before their brain says they need to respond.
So, bigger reactions from you over time = lesser responses from them over time.
And this was the very thing that was happening for us.
My child wore a look of complete surprise once she saw that I had enough.
And because of this, and because of what I know, I knew this was creating confusion for her, so it was time to shift gears.
Your kid is not bad for doing this. And you are not a failure for creating this.
But having created this also means you have the power to change it.
•I went back to the basics of communication- short, simple instruction while having her attention.
•I used a firmness level that matches my child's desire for cooperation.
•And I threw in some play and replacement activities.
And things are way better, even after one time of this.
If you are having trouble with this in your home, you are not alone.
There's more that goes into this that really makes it successful.
Link in comments where I can help you break the yelling cycle and enjoy a more loving and collaborative relationship with your child 💛.
