Arlene Kauffman, LMFT

10/16/2026

Perfectionism often whispers that love must be earned through flawless performance.

Grace tells the truth: we are loved before we impress anyone. “By grace you have been saved, through faith… not by works.” — Ephesians 2:8–9. The free weekly devotional is linked in our bio.

10/16/2026

10/16/2026

Being hard on yourself isn’t the price of becoming better.

You can grow, heal and change without attacking yourself along the way.

Let's practice right now. Leave yourself a little love in the comments. ❤️

10/16/2026

10/15/2026

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10/15/2026

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10/07/2026

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10/07/2026

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Have you ever reacted in the heat of the moment and wished you could take it back five minutes later?

Maybe you sent the message. Raised your voice. Said something harsher than you meant. Walked away. Agreed to something you did not want. Or made a decision while your emotions were running the show.

Strong emotions can make everything feel urgent. But feeling something urgently does not always mean you need to act on it urgently.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is create a tiny gap between the feeling and the reaction.

Not to ignore what you feel.

Not to pretend you are fine.

Just to give yourself enough time to choose what happens next.

That small pause can change an entire conversation. 💜

Save this for the next time everything feels urgent.

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