10/05/2026
👉 Remember this: Just because you feel guilty, doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.
Setting boundaries is one of the toughest skills to learn, particularly for people who struggle with people-pleasing. Our nervous system’s have literally been shaped and hardwired by the need to protect ourselves from conflict or people being angry or disappointed with us at all costs.
It was a protective mechanism that likely came from your own childhood, whether from abuse/neglect or getting praised whenever you would comply or be “the easy child”.
But now, you probably find that these patterns get in your way, and understandably so. It’s hard to stand up for yourself the way you want to or even maintain a strong sense of self when you constantly prioritize everyone’s needs but your own.
Is this something you deal with? Let’s talk about it in the comments!
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