10/09/2026
You’re right. The relationship caption introduced a separate task, and the betrayal caption barely addressed the trust problem.
Relationship post
If your ex never initiates - but does always respond and engage in-depth with you, you can still feel discouraged. Many of my coaching express concern at the start of a coaching relationship with me about having to initiate all/most of the time. Initiation seems to reassure people more than participation.
You can still want them to initiate, but you should pay attention to everything else that's happening in your conversations. Tracking helps you assess whether their engagement and interest are changing, even if you're the one reaching out.
Betrayal and trust selling post
You found out your partner was cheating, and, as part of their attempts at earning back your trust, they give you access to their phone.
When this happens, my coaching clients find that, even if they find nothing, the relief they experience is temporary, because they're actually looking for more than what checking a phone can give them.
Be specific about what you need, and record what happens over time. Their willingness to address your concerns, especially when doing so is uncomfortable for them, is part of what you’re evaluating.
In my six-week Betrayal & Trust Reconstruction cohort, we’ll examine what you truly need to trust again and review subsequent developments together. You’ll have help assessing whether their behavior is consistently meeting your needs and what questions remain unanswered.
The cohort begins November 9. Enrollment opens October 15. Information is available through the link in my bio.
