Dr Alduan Tartt

Dr Alduan Tartt Dr. Tartt has a private practice and also speaks frequently at conferences, churches, organizations on improving relationships, families and mental health.

Dr. Alduan Tartt is the go to psychology expert and media expert on dating, relationships, marriage & family, sports, and overall mental health for the faith-based community. Christian Psychologist helping you create thriving relationships. |

Dr. Tartt is a clinical psychologist with a focus on faith, mental health and relation

ships of all sorts (single, dating, marriage, family, sports, etc.). Dr. Tartt also host radio and television shows and is a frequent guest on major media outlets. Dr. Tartt also counsels other healers and helpers (pastors, ministers, doctors, entertainers) who need to be encouraged, supported and filled up too.

09/03/2026

That brain fog. That short fuse. That tired-for-no-reason feeling…

It might not be you. It might be your grocery bill.

I’m Dr. Alduan Tartt — psychologist and minister, 28 years studying stress and how people bounce back. Here’s what rising prices are quietly doing to your mind 👇

1️⃣ THE BANDWIDTH TAX Your focus, memory, and self-control all run on one tank. When part of your brain is always doing math on “can I cover this,” that tank drains. Researchers found money stress can cost you the equivalent of about 13 IQ points — like running your whole life on zero sleep.

2️⃣ TUNNELING Scarcity narrows your view down to right now. This bill. This week. The future goes blurry. That’s why stress makes good people make short-term choices that hurt them later.

3️⃣ LEARNED HELPLESSNESS You try, prices climb anyway, and the brain quietly concludes “nothing I do matters” — so you stop trying. That’s the real trap.

Politicians like Mike Collins create a sense of learned helplessness when the vote to eliminate the healthcare tax credit that actually helps working families and small businesses afford health insurance, leaving many Georgians facing higher premiums or losing coverage altogether.

THE ONE THING TO REMEMBER: Higher prices aren’t just emptying your wallet. They’re taxing the very mind you need to fix it. Your stress is not a character flaw. It’s a bandwidth tax. Name it — and you take your brain back.

“Let’s not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up.” — Galatians 6:9

Tell Mike Collins to stop supporting an agenda that keeps raising the cost of living here in Georgia.

09/02/2026

Did you know there are many men who simply were never taught how to express their emotions?

It hurts them big time in all relationships because feelings are the key ingredient to connection, empathy and intimacy.

It’s actually called alexithymia and is so prevalent that it is considered “normative” for a lot of men.

I discuss Men’s mental health and this particular disorder in detail with my good friend Rickey Smiley on his newest podcast Rickey Smiley On The Spot

From experience, how often have you observed this same difficulty in boys and men?

How do you guide or teach the sons or men in your life to effectively communicate emotionally?

Let’s talk about it!

08/27/2026

Why Power & Control Are Ruining Your Marriage

They still show up. They still say all the right things at all the right times. Yet somewhere along the way they quietly left — the body just hasn't caught up to the heart yet.

There is a difference between a partner who stays and a partner who is happy, and most of us never learn to tell them apart until the day the door closes for good. You can win every argument, hold the final word, keep the peace on your own terms, and still lie down each night beside someone who tolerates you and no longer wants you. That is the quiet tragedy I've watched unfold in good people for 28 years. Compliance can be demanded. Desire can only be earned, and it is earned the way a sculptor earns a masterpiece: slowly, deliberately, by the way you make the other person feel seen.

Dr. Caryl Rusbult spent her whole career asking what actually makes love last, and obligation never once made the list. What lasts is warmth, safety, and something she called the Michelangelo phenomenon — the way a devoted partner chips away everything that isn't the best version of the person they love, until that truest self finally steps out of the stone. A critical spouse carves in the opposite direction. They whittle the one they love into someone smaller, colder, quieter, then wonder why that person resents the very shape their hands have made.

Scripture named the standard long before the research caught up: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). The principle beneath it belongs to every heart in a covenant — the call is not to rule the one you love, but to lay yourself down for them. Nabal held all the power in his house and died bitter and alone. Boaz spent his power to cover someone who had no claim on him, and his name was written into the lineage of Christ. Same power, two entirely different souls. You are becoming one of them right now, whether you've noticed or not.

So ask the question you've been avoiding — "What is it really like to be with me?" — then say nothing while they answer. Carry something they've been carrying alone, before they ask. Speak their best self out loud and stand behind it. That is a bond no amount of control could ever manufacture.

Do yourself a favor and stop trying to figure this out alone. Come build the marriage, the dating life, and the peace of mind you actually want, surrounded by people doing the very same work, at www.transformingcircle.com. The ones who join learn to grow — the ones who don't stay exactly where they are, under the same roof, in the same silence, watching it slip a little further every day. That's why I am personally inviting you to join the community. Let's build you up, together.

08/24/2026

Is it ever a good idea to publicly criticize your spouse in public?

This certainly is a form of contempt that is most destructive in marriages and something we all should avoid at all cost.

I break down this entire episode of Married At First Sight (link in bio) and found at least SEVEN red flags for dating and marriage based on mutual “Daddy issues.”

Let’s see how many you can spot!

Should either spouse ever open up about how the marriage is going?

Does it depend, and if so, on what?

08/24/2026

What if you could control anxiety and fear but doing just three things? One, control your body via breath work. Two, change the way you think. Three, change your behavior by challenging the fear vs running from it? What could happen? You will master your emotions and have real solutions for being happier

Just like a real estate developer build houses, I help build you to have better emotional wellness, better relationships (dating) and strengthen marriages and I do it on a high level. I do this through The Transforming Circle. I invite you to join me here. I would love to guide you to more happiness, promising relationships and more satisfying marriages.

You deserve a trusted guide to make sure you transform. Check it out here https://alduan-tartt.mykajabi.com/transforming-circle-charter

08/20/2026

Men Who Refuse To Accept “Influence” From Their Wives Get Divorces 81% More Than Men Who Do.

Comment “influence” if you want the 7 Qualities of Great Husbands”

Men who struggle with power and control and refuse to be influenced or swayed by their wife’s opinions, needs and desires self-sabotage their marriages at 81%. That is four out of five.

Why get married if you are proactively resolved not to listen. Who wants to stay in a marriage where they have no voice, no safety and no impact?

This goes both ways too. Men who are routinely ignored or disrespected by their wives are unhappy as well.

Everyone wants a voice in relationships and marriage. Influence is necessary so you can have a voice that helps get your needs met in relationships and marriage.

Question: How good is your partner in accepting influence? Give them a an A-F grade.

How good are you at accepting influence? Give yourself a grade.

This should be interesting.

08/19/2026

What if we could train boys and men on the characteristics and skills that help him succeed in relationships and marriages before he gets into committed relationships?

I reveal SEVEN characteristics of great husbands here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUDCHVJG4GQ

This is what other cultures actually do and I have decided to educate men and women on what actually works when it comes to succeeding in relationships. One GREEN flag for men in relationships is developing the ability to remain emotionally regulated under pressure. Why?

When conflict occurs, we have to be able to avoid escalating and shutting down and, instead, resolve conflict with composure and co-regulate (calm our wife down) to truly show security.

How well do you regulate in relationships under pressure?

08/13/2026

Comment PRAY if you want to get tools for your relationship or marriage and go live with me so you don’t have to rely on AI and ChatGPT for advice.

Couples Who Pray Together Daily significantly decrease their chances of divorce so low you would be silly not to implement this in your marriage.

Honestly, who’s in on adding praying together as a couple to their daily routine to get these benefits?

What percentage of the time do you pray for one another and what is your new goal?

08/11/2026

A lot of marriages don’t need more love.

They need better relationship skills.

Contempt, criticism, defensiveness and shutting down can slowly turn spouses into opponents.

As The Relationship Psychologist, I created Transforming Circle to combine biblical wisdom + proven psychology so couples can strengthen their relationships before they need crisis-level help.

Spouse not ready? Come anyway. You can’t control what they bring to the marriage—but you can change what you bring.

Charter Membership is open now, and founding pricing will increase after launch.

Protect what you’ve built. Strengthen what you love.

Learn more:
https://alduan-tartt.mykajabi.com/transforming-circle-charter

08/11/2026

Are You Attracted To Drama In Relationships But Don’t Know Why?

Comment “Private” to join my private community where I give you tools, direct access to me and support to master relationships, marriage and life happiness.

Let me tell what could be going on psychologically and you don’t even know it…

It is likely because of something psychologists call “misattribution of arousal,” which is a psychological process where a person makes a mistake in identifying the cause of their physiological bodily activation.

They experience physical signs like a fast heartbeat or high energy from one event, but incorrectly label those bodily feelings as coming from a different, unrelated event.

Basically, you think drama, dysfunction and excitement equals love when really all means is drama, dysfunction and excitement lol.

It really can mess up every relationship because you never really learn how to have calm, steady, consistent love.

This can be tragic because you remain stuck in sabotaging good relationships and doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past. This is fixable.

Be honest: Do you have a friend who has this pattern (is it you lol) and how tough is it to get them to see the pattern?

I used to attribute drama to caring more about me when I was in high school. IJS

Share this video with them and encourage them to change so they/you can find real love.

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