07/09/2026
This is a conversation I think our birth community needs to be willing to have.
Over the years, Iāve had the privilege of supporting births in hospitals, birth centers, and homes. Iāve witnessed incredible, compassionate care in every setting. Iāve also witnessed moments where women left feeling deeply respected and honored and moments where they left completely dismissed and let down.
This post isnāt about saying one place is better than another. Itās about asking a question:
Why are more women choosing free birth?
I donāt believe the answer is as simple as ātheyāre anti-medicine.ā For many families, I think itās about something much deeper.
Itās about autonomy.
Itās about informed consent.
Itās about feeling like their questions matter.
Itās about wanting to be treated as an active participant in their birth instead of a passive recipient of care.
Birth is not inherently pathological. Most pregnancies and births are physiological processes. And when complications arise, I am incredibly grateful for skilled obstetricians, nurses, anesthesiologists, midwives, and hospital teams who provide life-saving care every single day.
Those two truths can exist at the same time.
We can celebrate modern medicine and ask how we can create maternity care that feels more relational, more collaborative, and more centered on the woman in front of us. Because when women feel respected, heard, and empowered, everyone benefits.
My hope is that we spend less time debating and criticizing where women give birth and more time asking why so many are searching for something different.
If youāre comfortable sharing, Iād love to hear from you. What made you feel the most supported during your birth experience? What do you wish had been different?
Letās keep this conversation thoughtful, respectful, and centered on learning from one another. š¤