elliothelttherapy

01/03/2024

Fun update!!

I have recently added some in person sessions to my robust virtual practice! My office is located in Denver CO and availability is dependent on schedule. I'm excited to have the opportunity to diversify and eager to have more sessions in person!

12/14/2023

✨ New on my website: Gender Affirming Care 101 Pocket Guide ✨

I've put together a 33 page "pocket guide" for clinicians and folks interested in learning more about gender-affirming care in therapy and beyond. This is a sneak peak of the sections included.

Free PDF download available via the shop on my website. 💻

Please reach out with any thoughts and feedback! This is meant to be a living document influenced by community input.

Sidenote: Anticipate more pocket guides from me in the future!

11/15/2023

New page on my website breaking down my sliding scale with a note on pay transparency.

Elliot Helt Therapy sliding scale information

11/15/2023

New page on my website with detailed information about the approaches to therapy I utilize!

My Approach to Therapy

11/13/2023

I want to be clear with a permanent post: Free Palestine 🇵🇸

I will continue to share valuable resources and information in my stories but let it be known where I stand. My practice, my work, my name will reflect my values against Islamophobia, anti-Semitism, and Zionism in support of work as an anti-opression oriented therapist and person.

"To be absolutely clear I stand with a Free Palestine and condemn gen0cide and the occupation of all oppressed people. As a therapist I do not operate removed from my political stance especially as it relates to systemic and interpersonal experiences of oppression and violence. Divesting from these systems is an integral part of individual, community, and societal healing. I learn from community and encourage all to center the voices of those directly impacted by oppression, racism, queerphobia, ableism, systemic silencing and all forms of violence.

It is very much my belief that therapy is not a-political and inherently operating from such a stance [silence] is politicized in of itself."

11/09/2023

Let's talk conflict:

Conflict in relationship is inevitable and not inherently negative. In fact, much growth can occur in and post conflict with strong communication skills, boundaries, and compassion.

One helpful tool is to discuss with your partner ways in which you agree to "fight fair" and establish agreements for when conflict arises. You can determine your own ground rules during a relationship check-in or other time when y'all are regulated.

These are a few suggested ground rules that are helpful in navigating conflict.

▶️ I statements: Frame your experience from your perspective, not a place of blame on your partner; “I feel...” vs. “you made me feel...”

▶️ Reflective listening: Utilize active listening skills; listen to understand rather than respond. Repeat back to your partner what you’re hearing.

▶️ State a positive need: Focus on stating what you need from your partner, rather than what they’re doing wrong or what you don’t need.

▶️ Take a break if needed: If you or your partner become overwhelmed or dysregulated, ask for a pause and decide on a time to return together.

▶️ Remember accountability: Healthy conflict in relationship is not one-sided. Identify and name the ways in which you have contributed.