Yourfaithfultherapist

09/03/2022

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We honor God, our Creator, by appropriately taking care of each part of ourselves, which includes our mental health. Whether or not you struggle with your mental health you will benefit from this course.

08/16/2022

Secondary losses are what cause the grief process to last for so long, because it complicates the ability to just "move on". They cause distress and discomfort and disrupt what we know or feel to be true. These are just a handful of secondary losses, but you can probably name a handful more from your experience. Which do you relate to, or what new one are you willing to share?

08/14/2022

Every person I have worked with regarding grief has felt guilty. Every. Single. One. Why is this? In my opinion, it's our human brain's trying to make sense out of the loss or death. As humans we like to have control--death throws us off kilter because we have no control over it. So to try to return to homeostasis, our brains look for the things that we SHOULD have done, or COULD have done differently, to make a different end result. In grief language, this is called "Bargaining".

"If I took her to the doctor sooner, she would still be alive." "I shouldn't have gotten angry with him before he got in his car, because then he wouldn't have had the accident." "It's my fault, because I wasn't a good daughter."

These statements are creating guilt, when nothing wrong was done. And nothing could have changed the outcome...time doesn't work that way.

So when we feel guilty after a loss, it's important to acknowledge it. Remember how common it is to fall into that thought. But also, to call it out as most likely untrue.