Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC

Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC Therapy & Coaching for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Host of She Rises Collective. Trauma-informed, feminist-rooted support.

Author of Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself to Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships. Have you been abused by a narcissist? Maybe you're unsure, but your relationships have consisted of more hurt than love. Maybe you find that you ignore red flags and keep attracting one disappointing or abusive partner after another. You may wonder if you can even trust your judgmen

t anymore. You are not alone, and you are not crazy. You have more strength than you can ever imagine. You can free yourself from the abuse, and break the pattern of abusive relationships. I am a holistic trauma therapist, and I've also survived narcissistic abuse. I am passionate about helping people heal from this confusing, damaging, insidious form of relationship abuse. I offer therapy for residents of Colorado, in the U.S., as a Licensed Professional Counselor. I also offer coaching for people who want to learn more about breaking this pattern, but who are not in need of intensive therapy. We can make this decision in a clarity call to ensure you receive the appropriate level of support.

06/11/2026

The soulmate narrative can make narcissistic relationships feel destined. But what often feels like deep, immediate connection can actually be:

• Mirroring
• Love bombing
• Manufactured emotional intensity
The goal isn’t to stop feeling connection.
It’s to slow it down enough to evaluate it clearly.

✨ Safety is built over time, not declared in the beginning.

06/01/2026

Nobody talks enough about how hard it is to leave a narcissistic relationship.

Not just logistically. Emotionally. Physically. In your nervous system.

Because you weren’t just leaving a person ~ you were leaving a version of yourself that had learned to survive around them. You were leaving the hope that things would go back to how they felt in the beginning. You were leaving the only reality you’d known for months or years.

And then people expected you to feel free.

But instead, you felt lost. Confused. Like you’d done something wrong by leaving. Like you missed them even though they hurt you. Like no one around you could possibly understand why it was this hard.

That confusion isn’t weakness. It’s what trauma bonding does. It’s what coercive control does. It’s what months or years of manipulation does to a nervous system.

You were not broken. You were conditioned.

If leaving felt — or still feels — like the hardest thing you’ve ever done, you’re not alone. And there’s nothing wrong with you for feeling that way.

💬 Have you ever felt more confused after you left than you did while you were in it? I’d love to hear from you below.

06/01/2026

The goal was never to help you thrive.

The goal was to keep you busy surviving.

Many women spend years believing they are lazy, emotional, needy, or “not enough” when in reality they are carrying the weight of constant manipulation, criticism, and emotional instability.

When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, thriving becomes impossible.

If this resonates, let it be a reminder:

The version of you that existed before the confusion, self-doubt, and exhaustion is still there.

Healing is not becoming someone else.

It’s coming home to yourself. ❤️

06/01/2026

Things I Wish People Would Stop Saying to Survivors

Part 1: “Why didn’t you just leave?”

Here’s what that question implies: → That staying was a choice → That leaving was simple → That if you were smart enough or strong enough, you would have gone

None of that is true.

You are not alone. And you never have to explain your timeline to anyone.

05/23/2026

Many survivors struggle with boundaries because they were conditioned to override themselves.

Boundaries are not selfish.

They are protective.

And they are a core part of healing.

Which boundary has been hardest for you?

05/22/2026

By the time many people leave, they’re not just walking away from a person. They’re walking away from confusion, trauma bonds, guilt, fear, self-doubt, and the version of themselves that spent so long trying to make the relationship make sense.

Leaving can feel heartbreaking even when the relationship was hurting you.

If you’ve been there, you are not crazy. And you are not alone.

05/14/2026

One of the hardest parts of narcissistic abuse is that your body often knows something is wrong long before your mind is ready to accept it.
The anxiety. The overthinking. The walking on eggshells. The constant need to explain yourself, prove yourself, or keep the peace.

Healthy love does not leave your nervous system in survival mode.
You are not meant to spend your life shrinking yourself to avoid somebody else’s reactions.

Healing is not just about leaving the relationship. It’s about rebuilding trust in your own instincts again.

05/14/2026

That fatigue, brain fog, or loss of joy wasn’t laziness. It was your nervous system shutting down under chronic stress. Be gentle with yourself, survival is strength.

ToxicFree

05/12/2026

What keeps people stuck in a trauma bond?
Cognitive dissonance.

When someone is loving one minute and cruel the next, your brain tries to reconcile two completely different realities. Over time, that inconsistency creates deep confusion — about them and about yourself.

“I have strong values. I’d never tolerate this… so why am I still here?”

That mental tug-of-war isn’t weakness. It’s a trauma response to inconsistency and abuse.
If this resonates, learn more at the link in my bio. ❤️‍🩹

05/12/2026

Hills I will die on as a narcissistic abuse therapist.
These come directly from years of clinical work with survivors, not theory.

If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, your healing requires:
✔️ Discernment
✔️Trauma Therapy & psychoeducation specifically focused on narcissistic abuse
✔️ Time
✔️ Slowing things down

What’s a hill you would die on after your experience?

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