The Radiant Life Project

The Radiant Life Project Licensed therapist and award winning author here to help you heal trauma and disentangle from unhealthy relationships.

06/05/2026

It’s not always a clear picture when you realize you’re unsafe in your family system (psychology, emotionally, physically). The back-and-forth can last for years, even decades, because the bond of family is so unique and powerful.

This is why people who come from toxic families tend to endure massive harm and cruelty (that they never deserved) in the name of family. They try to stay anchored to their biological origins because it’s so unbelievably unnatural to cut ties with them.

No contact is such a difficult choice.
In my 20-years as a licensed therapist, and in my own experience of family estrangement, I have never seen this choice taken lightly or done impulsively. It is a last resort for people who feel they have tried everything to resolve relational discord, come up with no solutions, and find no evidence that anything will ever change. So they choose no contact to protect their health and safety, and that of their children.

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06/02/2026

When a toxic, abusive mother makes a powerhouse daughter, it’s a lot like the pressure a diamond endures in order to become luminous. Rather than breaking the daughter down and shattering her, the harmful actions and behaviors of a toxic mother actually sharpen and enhance the daughter’s strength.

She knows “toxic” because it’s been so prevalent in her life, and she says “no” to it. She’s so familiar with abusive dynamics that she refuses to participate in them or perpetuate them. She’s a force of empowerment, strength, and resiliency because she actively chooses to be opposite of the person who raised her.

She turns her pain to power in the most beautiful way, and because of this her ripple effect is a force for good—for healing, growth, and repair for herself and her children.

💥 Now, if that’s not power, I don’t know what is. Comment POW if this is you.

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People talk and people ask, especially when they know you’re no-contact with your parents… and they talk/ask even more w...
06/01/2026

People talk and people ask, especially when they know you’re no-contact with your parents… and they talk/ask even more when they know your parents and have their own opinions about your choice.

Years ago when I attended my 20-year high school reunion I was asked “How are your Mom/Dad?” about a hundred times. At the time I was no-contact with both parents, though I have since repaired with one parent (I still remain disconnected from the other parent). I chose to be honest yet brief, and not overshare with people I wasn’t close with.

There were so many perplexed faces, surprised people who didn’t see it coming, and follow-up questions (some I chose to answer, others I didn’t.) It was a great learning experience for me that helped me create this post for you.

BOTTOM LINE:
☑️ You don’t have to answer any questions you don’t feel comfortable with.
☑️ You don’t have to explain yourself or justify why you made the choice you made.
☑️ Your experiences are (and were) valid, whether onlookers agree or not.
☑️ Stay true to your truth.

💥📖 RELATABLE? For support with difficult family relationships (and other challenging relationships), and for help navigating the no-contact experience, read “Mend or Move On.”
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I’ve been working on this series for months, letting it move through me and guide my creative expression. I’m still deci...
05/31/2026

I’ve been working on this series for months, letting it move through me and guide my creative expression. I’m still deciphering exactly what its message is, but as an art therapist I trust that the meaning will become clear in the unfolding. For now, I’m enjoying just sitting with these images and taking them in.

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05/31/2026

Kids in unhealthy, dysfunctional homes lack control in a big way. Here are two things a child cannot do for themselves when being raised in an unsafe, toxic, abusive home that build unhealthy patterns they can choose to heal as an adult:

FIRST: they cannot change the environment, so they are forced to change themselves. This is how children are incredibly adaptive and can contort themselves into versions of Self that can more easily access safety.

SECONDLY: they cannot regulate their emotions, because their brain and nervous system are not fully formed yet (until at least age 25). They are still in the state of relying on their caregivers to co-regulate with them.

💥📖 If you’re healing from a toxic family, my book “Mend or Move On” will really help. You’re not alone in this.
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05/29/2026

You are precious - whether your parent has the health and stability to see it or not.

And if you were raised by a parent who made you feel anything less than absolutely precious and valuable, I send you my love and support. And I hope you know you’re not alone on this healing journey.

💥📖 Relatable? My new book “Mend or Move On” will help.
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05/28/2026

It’s ok if you’re not 100% over it yet. Healing takes time. Deep relationships that come to an end require layers of healing. Keep going. You’re not alone.

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05/26/2026

Somehow you’re both the victim and the villain. How is this possible? In toxic relationships and family systems it’s not only possible, but common. It’s a strategic mechanism to keep the people in the family who are the abusers—the harmful, dysfunctional people who refuse to look at themselves—avoidant of taking ownership of blame and accusation by projecting those energies toward you.

If you’re carrying the burden of both villain and victim, no one else in the system has to. And if the entire system agrees, that makes you the odd person out. And that really works for the system, even if it hurts you deeply.

Here’s how it works:

VICTIM: you are hurt repeatedly. Psychologically, emotionally, physically. And you were taught to believe that you either deserve to be hurt (which you do not), or need to allow yourself to be hurt in order to secure belonging.

VILLAIN: Although you are being hurt, you’re somehow led to believe that you are actually the bad guy. The story goes that you are the aggressor, you are the one to blame, you are the problem—which is most often completely false.

💥📖 If this is all too relatable, my book will help. Read “Mend or Move On” for support and healing.
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05/24/2026

If your system is used to being in Toxic relationships, they may have become familiar and “normal” to your nervous system.

When you grow beyond the dynamics of dysfunctional relationships and build healthier dynamics, your nervous system might be on alert for a while because of how unfamiliar the healthy flow feels. The nervous system may need time and repetition trust what’s happening.

It’s an indication of growth to attract healthier relationships. If you continue to show your nervous system healthy patterns and meaningful connection, it will start to wire in accordance with those dynamics and your comfort with these healthy relationships will increase.

💥Ready to end toxic relationships for good? I’ve got you with my new book “Mend or Move On.”
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05/22/2026

Anyone else familiar with this story?

Anyone else say NO to the expectation to be small, compliant and voiceless?

Yea, me too.
Let’s be the change together.

💥📖 My book “Mend or Move On” is your road map. I hope it helps and supports your freedom, safety, and the intentional design of your own life.
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