09/23/2026
Pay Attention to the People Beside You.
Sometimes struggling doesn’t look like someone saying, “I need help.”
It might look like the person who was always early suddenly being late for shift.
Someone who is more agitated than usual. More frequent outbursts. Calling out more. Isolating from the crew. Drinking more. Not sleeping. Or simply not acting like themselves.
None of those things automatically mean someone has a mental health or substance use problem.
But a change from someone’s normal behavior is worth noticing.
As first responders, you may actually be in a better position to notice those changes than almost anyone else.
Think about it.
Eight, twelve, sometimes twenty-four-hour shifts. Calls. Rounds. Overtime. Sitting in an ambulance or cruiser. Time around the station.
You may spend more waking hours with that person than their own family does.
And you don’t need to be a therapist to check in.
You don’t need experience with therapy yourself. You don’t need to diagnose them. And you definitely don’t need to know how to fix whatever is going on.
Sometimes you just need an extra five minutes:
“Hey, I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately. Everything alright?”
And if you get the automatic “Yeah, I’m good,” maybe ask the second question.
Let them know you’re there.
That conversation might go nowhere today.
It might matter three days, three weeks, or three months from now.
First responders are trained to notice things other people miss.
Use that skill with each other.
Take the extra five minutes. Ask the second question. Send the text after shift. Check again tomorrow.
You aren’t responsible for fixing another person’s life.
But you might be the person who notices before everyone else does.
Look out for the people who spend their shifts looking out for everyone else.
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